Obituaries

Cookie, our spirited, energetic and beautiful son from Costa Rica passed away tragically and needlessly this past week. Trevor

• Dec 08, 2020
  Thinking of Trevor's family on this second year anniversary of his death. I miss him every minute of everyday. Sending his family tons of love... I hope that life has been treating you all better. Trevor is watching over you.. dont ever forget it !!
  
  Sincerely Rebecca Rolfe aka Mookie.
• Oct 18, 2020
  Dearest Oscar and Susan, and Trevor's siblings...
  
  This is Rebecca Rolfe. I've been trying to get ahold of you ever since I found out about Trevor. I am so very sorry for your loss; I can't imagine what you went through and continue to go through. My heart goes out to each and every single one of you .
  
  Trevor was my soulmate. When we were not a couple we were still best friends and we had worked through a lot to be in a position to be happy and raise our own family. I had called Trevor just before he died and we had spoken about getting back together and moving on in life. I was so happy, and worked hard to recover from my hip surgery so that we could fulfill this dream. I found out after I got out of the hospital about his death, and for a while after that I was very fragile, suicidal even. It took a while but I ended up working for a great company as an Overdose Prevention/Outreach Worker and am doing what ever I can to make a difference in people's lives. Some days are still dark and sad and a real struggle to get through but I just keep reminding myself that Trevor would be proud of my work, and that his death HAS to bring something positive into this world.
  
  I have many happy memories with you all, family dinners, walks. You accepted me because Trevor loved me and for that I'm forever grateful. I am so very sorry for your loss, I understand better than anyone, as an adoptee, the amount of love it takes to nurture children from really tough starts to life, Oscar and Susan you did what you could. This is in no way your fault and I hope that you can see that. Even though Trevor had big dreams and goals he seemed to know deep down that his life would end early. he used to tell me "time is not on our side, we don't have forever" and then he got that tattoo of the flower in glass on his chest . The overdose problem is unfortunately taking all walks of life, but Trevor's has been the most hurtful.
  
  I pray that you all can find a sense of peace in your days and nights knowing that at least Trevor is safe and not suffering anymore.
  
  I am planning on a trip to Kelowna to see Trevor's final resting place, I'm hoping it's beside his brother. That would have meant alot to him. I do hope that our paths cross again one day, and we can reminisce about good times.
  
  If there is anything I can ever do to help I'm here. 778 587 9477. Take care of yourselves and don't ever forget he would never leave you, he's always watching over you all.
  
  Sincerely Rebecca R
• Jan 16, 2019
  Susan and Oscar,
  
  For all of us adoptive parents who have children with ongoing problems, the loss of your handsome son Trevor, truly reflects "our biggest fear" - losing our children too young - due to their suggestibility and vulnerability of perceived friends who are not good role models. The love that you have for your Trevor will never waver.
  
  Warm hugs,
  
  Rob and Pat
• Dec 24, 2018
  Susan and Oscar, we are so sorry to hear about Trevor and we extend our deepest sympathies to you and your family at this most difficult time, Sonia and Norm Holm
• Dec 23, 2018
  The loss of Trevor is truly heartbreaking.
  
  I hope the good memories of him will help you in this difficult time.
  
  Hugs my friends.
  
  Yolande Peske
• Dec 23, 2018
  So sorry to hear about this, I grew up with Trevor and he was nothing but such a bright energetic, loving person sadness me to be writing this. For ever in our hearts Trevor. <3
  
  Tay
• Dec 22, 2018
  Dear Oscar and family,
  
  It saddens me to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
  
  Ron McDougall
• Dec 21, 2018
  Oscar and family, my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Trevor is at peace. Brendan
• Dec 21, 2018
  My Son was a friend of Trevor's and had him over to our house a few times. I always found him to be a friendly polite young man. My heart goes out to you. Such a tragedy.
  
  Sue Parsons
• Dec 21, 2018
  Oscar, and family,
  
  I am so sorry to hear of your sudden loss.
  
  From our conversation about adopted families a few weeks back, please remember you and Susan provided Trevor with a much greater life than he would have ever had.
  
  Rick Montgomery
• Dec 21, 2018
  I'm so sorry for your loss. I did not know Cookie, but (especially as a parent to a young son), this brings a tear to my eyes. Deepest condolences.
• Dec 20, 2018
  Tre will be sadly missed.... I had met your son only a handful of times but everytime I chatted with him he was full of energy. He was positive with a passion for making everyone else feel good about themselves... I know one of his good buddies and when he heard the news it devastated him. Your right, there is an epidemic of sorts going on these days in our smallish community. I'm not sure how many more deaths will take place just to see some change or police stepping up and dealing with these issues. But your son will always be remebered as a soul with a zest for life.
  
  My deepest condolences...
  
  - Jon
• Dec 20, 2018
  Oscar and Susan
  
  We are so terribly sorry to hear of your son's passing. Knowing both of you, he must have been a very special person. Our sincere condolences.
  
  Ray and Diane Loseth.
• Dec 20, 2018
  My deepest condolences to you Oscar and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
  
  Darren McClelland
• Dec 20, 2018
  Dear Susan, Oscar and family, We have sent you a message via email but please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you across the miles at this very sorrowful time. May Trevor find peace now and you and your family find the comfort you so deserve. Sending our love and deepest sympathy... Val, Blago, Ilija, BJ and Julia
• Dec 20, 2018
  Thank you for sharing your beautiful goodbye of your son.
  
  My hope is that those lucky enough to read this will feel the
  
  compassion & love you have shared with all of us.
  
  My wish is that it will be a learning tool for others experiencing similar circumstances.
  
  Sending hugs, April White
• Dec 20, 2018
  Thank you for this beautiful write-up. With a son out there we are in the same boat. Your very well written message rings out loud and clear for others in our difficult to understand situation. It's hell waiting for that fateful knock on our door that we fear every second of our lives. You gave us hope and solace. I'm so sorry it came with a heavy price tag. We send our love and comfort to you.
  
  Thanks again,
  
  Larry & Kim
• Dec 20, 2018
  Oscar and family,
  
  My deepest condolences for the loss of your beloved son and brother. Having lost a brother to addiction, I understand your pain. Cling tightly to each other during these difficult times.
  
  Jo-Anne Grove
• Dec 20, 2018
  Dear Susan (and family):
  
  I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What a lovely tribute you have written for your son. Sending love.
  
  Linda Povarchook (olive & elle)
• Dec 20, 2018
  I did not know your son, but your beautiful tribute brought tears to my eyes. Through your pain and sorrow, you have still reached out and your words have touched many hearts, I am sure.
  
  The loss you are suffering is far too common and as you said, needless. Our youth are being taken away from us far to young.
  
  Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this most tragic time, and in the days ahead.
  
  May you find rest and strength in the arms of God and in the love and support of those closest to you.
  
  Sharon
• Dec 19, 2018
  Dear Susan, Oscar & Walter, our heartfelt condolences are expressed to you all. There is no deeper pain than losing a child. Trevor was blessed to have such a wonderful caring, loving family that loved & supported him unconditionally. May he have found peace in his new life & may you find peace in your wonderful memories of him. Our thoughts & prayers are with you.
  
  Love & God Bless
  
  Patti & Sam DiMaria
• Dec 19, 2018
  Susan, Oscar and Family.
  
  So very sorry to hear of the loss of you beautiful son. My heart is breaking for you but how wonderful that you were able to share such love with him. All of you are such a powerful example of the strength of family, Keeping you in our Prayers.
  
  Judith and Michael Mercer
• Dec 19, 2018
  I don't know you or your son, but reading your tribute to Trevor is so heart felt and open and I feel for you. Prayers.
  
  Vickie Barron
• Dec 19, 2018
  Susan, Oscar, and Walter,
  
  We were so very sorry to learn that once again you have to struggle with the pain of a loss. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
  
  Charles and Anne Colk
• Dec 19, 2018
  Oscar and family, I am so sorry for the loss of your son and brother.
  
  Barry Evans
• Dec 19, 2018
  This write up is so well written and speaks for everyone who has lost someone through the harsh reality of depression and pain - it is peaking through their most tragic pain a parent could face. They bravely spoke the truth while still conveying their son was bright and a good human being. He struggled and still tried to give his best, he was much loved and not abandoned, just one of those tragedies where nothing in the world could of helped more. He had the love of his family and never giving up on him and was always there for him. Most families and parents really try hard to understand without harsh judgement, but in the end they can only be assured they did the best they can and still God called one of his angels back. This message really will sail through all the parent's and sibling's minds and hopefully it helps them to understand its okay if path to life went astray ,what will be will be. Thanks for sharing this very open emotional pain and understanding that maybe by this you have helped many others in the same situation.
  
  Keep reaching out -never give up hope.

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