The Happiness Connection  

Resisting change is futile

Technically, September isn’t the start of a new year, but in my head, it is. I guess with being either a student, a teacher, or parent of school-aged children for so long, this makes sense.

For many years, August brought with it, dreams about teaching. They were usually nightmares that involved being trapped in the school with my students, or them refusing to listen to me.

I no longer face the prospect of another year of school, but even so, I’m always sad to sense the end of the season. I love the sunshine, long days of sunlight, and warm weather of summer.

But we aren’t in a usual sort of year. Along with all the other strange things that are going on, I found myself ready to move into fall several weeks ago. That’s never happened before.

I love the lazy days of summer. This year they were a bit too hazy and definitely too crazy to really enjoy.

I heard Chris Walker of CBC radio sum it up by saying we spent the first half of the summer in an oven, and the second in a chimney.

That’s a pretty accurate summation.

However, being ready for something to end doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to happen more quickly. If we had the power to change the weather, we might not be in this situation.

Summer always comes to an end at some point. How we feel about the transition has no effect on the outcome.

This lack of control applies to many things in life.

Almost everything dies eventually. It may take millions of years, or a matter of minutes, but few things last forever. Planets, seasons, and people all fall into this inevitable conclusion.

The only thing you have power over is your attitude towards the ending. Resisting change doesn’t make it easier to deal with its evolution.

Instead of trying in vain to stop the progression of time, take steps to make the transition easier.

Accept that change is inevitable and look forward.

The movement of time is what brings growth and excitement of the unknown. Can you imagine how boring life would become if there was nothing new to experience?

Our environment needs all four seasons, so take time to envision the benefits and pleasures that lay ahead. Look forward to cozy times in front of the fire, days on the slopes, and your warmer clothing.

Don’t go from lazy to crazy in one fell swoop.

Gently ease yourself into the transition from one season to the next.

Try not to throw your family into all the activities that come with a new school year. Set some time aside just to kick back and relax, rather than nonstop rushing around.

If you have children, make small changes to gradually re-establish school-time routines.

Adapt some of your favourite summer activities, so they’re more fall friendly.

Just because it isn’t as warm, that’s no excuse not to get outside, go out on the lake, or have a picnic. Aim for some lazy, crazy days of autumn.

Change and transition doesn’t have to be hard. You get to choose how you want to progress through it. If you want to feel differently, change your perspective.

If all else fails, remember how quickly time passes. Before you know it, summer will be back, and you’ll be another year older.

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About the Author

Reen Rose is an experienced, informative, and engaging speaker, author, and educator. She has worked for over three decades in the world of education, teaching children and adults in Canada and England.

Research shows that happy people are better leaders, more successful, and healthier than their unhappy counterparts, and yet so many people still believe that happiness is a result of their circumstances.

Happiness is a choice. Reen’s presentations and workshops are designed to help you become robustly happy. This is her term for happiness that can withstand challenge and change.

Reen blends research-based expertise, storytelling, humour, and practical strategies to both inform and inspire. She is a Myers Briggs certified practitioner, a Microsoft Office certified trainer and a qualified and experienced teacher.

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Check out her websites at www.ReenRose.com, or www.ModellingHappiness.com

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