The Happiness Connection  

Life altering affirmations

Do you believe you create your own reality?

I don’t want to go too far down the reality rabbit hole. I’m referring to the fact that what you believe is your reality.

If you think the world is dangerous, then your world is full of danger. Another person, living in the same world, may believe it’s a loving place and find love in every corner.

This happens because of the way your brain works.

You may hear with your ears and see with your eyes, but until your brain gets involved, there isn’t any meaning attached.

Your eyes send raw data to the control centre. Your brain is there to decide:

  • Who you’re looking at
  • What kind of expression they have
  • How that relates to you or your environment.

It uses your beliefs, values, and experiences to help it decide how to interpret the information sent by your eyes.

If you believe you need to lose weight, or that nobody likes you, that’s what your brain will use to interpret what you see in the mirror, or the expression on someone’s face.

The uniqueness of each person means that your brain is likely to interpret things, at the very least, slightly differently than anyone else. Much of this decoding happens subconsciously.

Without conscious intervention, things we hear regularly, tell ourselves over and over, or complain about become absorbed as truth.

I convinced myself that I had no eye-hand co-ordination, that I wasn’t as smart as my siblings, and that I was lacking in some way.

I also had the unshakable belief that I would get any job I interviewed for, that I was born to be a teacher, and that my life was blessed with luck.

All these things, both the possibilities and the limitations, became part of my reality.

Letting your subconscious mind be in control of how you perceive the world, isn’t your only option.

You can choose to take a mindful approach and encourage your brain to interpret stimuli in a way that feels good for you.

If you have the power to decide, then you might as well create something that brings you happiness.

I like to use affirmations to release limiting beliefs and embrace new possibilities.

Affirmations are short, powerful statements that you repeat often. They can affirm good or bad beliefs. Negative self-talk is a type of affirmation.

Put them to your advantage by being deliberate and conscious of what you say to yourself. Create statements to support the things you want to be true about you and your life.

By repeating them daily, you can change the thoughts and beliefs you hold in your subconscious mind. This in turn, will support changes in your behaviours and thought patterns.

In other words, affirmations can help shape your perceived reality.

There are lists of affirmation examples online, but it’s easy to create one that’s customized to your unique needs and desires.

What do you want to change, support, or create?

You may already know exactly what to choose. If not, free writing can be useful. Set aside a specific block of time to write down whatever comes into your head. Don’t think about it and don’t judge, just write.

When you’re finished, read over your words to see if something jumps out at you. It might be a desire for something new or different, or a limitation you want to alter or release.

Continue your sessions of free writing until you know what you want to accomplish with your affirmation.

You may have several things you want to affirm, but it’s best to concentrate on one at a time. You want to give your subconscious mind time to absorb each affirmation as truth.

Create your affirmation statement.

  • Keep it short but powerful.
  • Write in the first person by using the words I and my.
  • Rather than repeating “love your life,” say “I love my life.”
  • Write in the present tense as if you’ve already achieved what you want.
  • Replace “I will get fit,” with “I am fit.”
  • Keep it positive.
  • Instead of saying, ”I don’t eat junk food,” try “I choose healthy food.”
  • Add emotion.
  • I’m grateful for healthy food that energizes my body.
  • Repeat your affirmation multiple times a day.

Create reminders in your phone or write it on post-it notes and leave it in places like on your mirror, in your car, or beside your bed. Every time you see one of these notes, say your affirmation.

Try habit stacking. Repeat your affirmation when you finish brushing your teeth or washing your hands.

Change your affirmation as you notice your emotions behind it waning. You can stick with the same goal but stated in a different way. It’s important to feel an emotional charge when you say your affirmation.

Don’t worry about how you’re going to make your affirmation come true. If you believe it’s possible, your conscious and subconscious minds will help you find a way.

Speak to your deepest desires by creating affirmations that resonate with your soul.

Be more conscious of the things you say and think. Each thought, and every word is an affirmation. Think of them as self-fulfilling prophecies.

What do you want to create for your reality?

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About the Author

Reen Rose is an experienced, informative, and engaging speaker, author, and educator. She has worked for over three decades in the world of education, teaching children and adults in Canada and England.

Research shows that happy people are better leaders, more successful, and healthier than their unhappy counterparts, and yet so many people still believe that happiness is a result of their circumstances.

Happiness is a choice. Reen’s presentations and workshops are designed to help you become robustly happy. This is her term for happiness that can withstand challenge and change.

Reen blends research-based expertise, storytelling, humour, and practical strategies to both inform and inspire. She is a Myers Briggs certified practitioner, a Microsoft Office certified trainer and a qualified and experienced teacher.

Email Reen at [email protected]

Check out her websites at www.ReenRose.com, or www.ModellingHappiness.com

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