The Happiness Connection  

Let inner GPS guide you

Limit your egg intake to two a week. Eat all the eggs you want.

Tans are healthy. Stay out of the sun.

Children are meant to be seen and not heard. Encourage your children to stand up for themselves.

You are surrounded by gurus, ground-breaking scientific discoveries, and a never-ending stream of advice.

This is one of the reasons there are fad diets, fickle child-rearing approaches, and ever-changing health recommendations.

Who should you listen to?

The simple answer is you.

You have an internal compass that will help you make good decisions — for you. Of course, you need to recognize this system exists before you can take advantage of it.

I should also mention that your GPS is specific to you. Other people have their own compass.

This magical guidance system is created from your values, beliefs, and experiences. You are guided by your integrity.

Listen to the gurus, observe the findings of the most recent scientific studies, and consider the current health fads, but only embrace what feels right for you.

Let me give you an example.

When my children were young, butter had a bad reputation. People were encouraged to substitute margarines. These were touted as having amazing health benefits.

That didn’t feel right to me. How could something that was processed be better than a natural product? I ignored the commonly accepted advice and only bought butter.

I was gratified when research discovered that margarine was high in trans fats and should be avoided. Even if that hadn’t happened, I would have carried on with my choice until it no longer felt right.

It’s easy to ignore your instincts and integrity and give more credibility to what other people say and do. It’s strange how simple it is to believe that others know you better than you do.

Listen to the scientific findings, consider what your family and friends have to say, and then stop to consult your internal compass.

State your options and see which one feels right.

  • I am going to eat butter.
  • I am going to eat margarine.

Feel free to substitute statements that are applicable to you.

Listen to your intuition. Does one feel truer, lighter, or freer for you? If so that’s the one to follow.

The process is easier if you are clear about your beliefs and values. They should be top of mind, not something that needs a long pause of consideration.

This is where personal development plays an important role. Take time to find out what you value and believe. Sometimes values change, so reevaluate annually, or when you experience a major change in your life.

If both statements feel heavy, or light that also gives you good information. Maybe you need to be creative and find a completely different solution as none of the options seem good. It could also suggest that it doesn’t matter which choice you make.

If there is any confusion or indecision, try sleeping on it. I find this an invaluable action when I am struggling with a decision.

If someone advises you to do something that doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. That includes any advice I may include in my column. Just because something works for me, that doesn’t guarantee you will have the same result.

Only you truly know what serves you best.

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About the Author

Reen Rose is an experienced, informative, and engaging speaker, author, and educator. She has worked for over three decades in the world of education, teaching children and adults in Canada and England.

Research shows that happy people are better leaders, more successful, and healthier than their unhappy counterparts, and yet so many people still believe that happiness is a result of their circumstances.

Happiness is a choice. Reen’s presentations and workshops are designed to help you become robustly happy. This is her term for happiness that can withstand challenge and change.

Reen blends research-based expertise, storytelling, humour, and practical strategies to both inform and inspire. She is a Myers Briggs certified practitioner, a Microsoft Office certified trainer and a qualified and experienced teacher.

Email Reen at [email protected]

Check out her websites at www.ReenRose.com, or www.ModellingHappiness.com

The views expressed are strictly those of the author and not necessarily those of Castanet. Castanet does not warrant the contents.

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