The Happiness Connection  

Be a drama-free zone

Are you one of those people, who like me have declared an end to drama in your life?

Drama is the cornerstone of many books, television shows, and movies. The popularity of these forms of storytelling attests to our enjoyment of watching others navigate larger than life situations and challenges.

But drama doesn’t always stay in the pages of a book or digital file of a television show or movie. When events get blown out of proportion, or given more attention than they deserve, you have real life drama.

Do you know any drama queens or kings?

These are people who don’t just get a flat tire, they get a blowout in the middle of rush hour when they are already late for work.

Both the above statements are describing the same event. The biggest difference of the two descriptions is the level of emotion that is attached.

When your world if full of drama, your positive and negative emotions are intensified, even if the circumstances don’t warrant it.

Most of us have been caught up in drama of one sort of another. Even if the drama isn’t yours, you can be pulled into that of another person.

Think back to your teenage years. Trivial words and actions became major events to be dissected, judged, and gossiped about. Although drama may be more common in middle school than in a corporate office, it still exists in the lives of plenty of mature adults.

Why do we get caught up in drama?

  • Humans are driven to fit in with their tribe. Supporting the school or corporate drama queen or king provides an opportunity to feel you belong.
  • If you are involved in drama, you might feel like you are the centre of attention.
  • If you feel powerless, drama gives you a certain sense of control. When it is your drama, you get to drive the bus.

The problem with drama is that it can be exhausting.

Humans are not designed to stay in intense emotional states for more than a brief time. If you are there repeatedly or for extended periods, it will take its toll on your energy.

Your resting place for emotion is mild to moderate positivity. This state provides a sense of peace.

Like so many aspects of life, you don’t have to accept drama as part of your world. You can choose to remove it.

Start by refusing to let events in your life take a more prominent role than they deserve. By declining to blow situations out of proportion, you can preserve a comforting level of tranquility.

Let go of intense emotions if they aren’t serving you. Practice stepping into the role of an observer and learn to appreciate neutrality. It isn’t good or bad, it simply IS. This attitude will support your desire for peace.

Spend less or no time with people who are involved in drama. This is difficult if the person is a family member, office colleague, or close friend, but you still have choices.

Choose not to participate in their drama. Listen to what they say, but don’t give them any response. Try to steer the conversation to other less dramatic topics. Drama isn’t nearly as entertaining if the conversation is one sided.

Be an advocate for people who aren’t there to represent themselves. Present a different and kinder perspective. The person who cut in front of you may have been experiencing an emergency or crisis.

Be honest and share your decision to cut drama out of your life. Hopefully others will respect your choice enough to at least attempt to cut out the drama when you are together.

Since becoming a drama-free zone, my life has been calmer, and I have been happier.

Humans are designed to spend most of their time in the peace and tranquility of mild to moderate positivity.

Don’t take my word for it. Test it out for yourself by making your world a drama free zone.

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About the Author

Reen Rose is an experienced, informative, and engaging speaker, author, and educator. She has worked for over three decades in the world of education, teaching children and adults in Canada and England.

Research shows that happy people are better leaders, more successful, and healthier than their unhappy counterparts, and yet so many people still believe that happiness is a result of their circumstances.

Happiness is a choice. Reen’s presentations and workshops are designed to help you become robustly happy. This is her term for happiness that can withstand challenge and change.

Reen blends research-based expertise, storytelling, humour, and practical strategies to both inform and inspire. She is a Myers Briggs certified practitioner, a Microsoft Office certified trainer and a qualified and experienced teacher.

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