New Thought
Sing your song loud, proud
Don’t let your song die within you, whatever that may be. Is there anything you’d love to do, something you’d love to try, but haven’t...
Beauty in the ordinary
Fill in the blank. I’ll be happy when______. I’ll be happy when I get the job, or the perfect partner. I’ll be happy when I lose this weight,...
Addicted to thinking
Thinking, thinking, thinking. The virtual reality of our minds prevents us from experiencing what’s really going on in the present moment. So much of our...
Show up and shut up
Just show up and shut up. This simple and sage advice was offered by Clair Jantzen, a local grief and loss therapist, last Sunday in Kelowna, at the Walk of...
Raging on the road
Sometimes people just lose it. All of us have had times when we’ve freaked out or reacted at a level not matching the situation. I clearly remember the...
You can be a super hero
A book’s first chapter doesn’t tell the whole story. If it did, the rest of the book would be boring. Bestselling books are far from predictable,...
Was the day really that bad?
Days spin out of control or go down the tubes pretty quickly if we let them. Challenging situations, unexpected delays, or a few irritating moments, especially...
Are you annoying/annoyed?
Is everyone out to be annoying? Why can’t people be more like me, care about what I care about, and clean-up behind themselves? Didn’t their mothers...
We are not our mistakes
We are not our mistakes, and we are not defined by our past. Mistakes are simply that, mis-takes. They’re times we’ve tried, and it just...
STOP! Don't move so fast
The hurrier I go, the behinder I get. It often seems like there’s not enough time in the day for all we have to do. Life can feel like one big to-do list,...
Be a hero to yourself
Why do we do the right thing? What do we do when no one’s looking? If no one’s watching, does it matter what we do? As a child, being honest and...
Stop the self-torture
Too many of us are into self-torture. It has to stop. We have to stop punishing ourselves. It’s easy to take life, and other’s unskilled ways,...
Take Shrek's advice
Comfort is overrated. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut of sameness. Routines are predictable and often bring a sense of comfort. I find great comfort in...
You're more than the J word
You are important and you matter; get used to it! People are so quick to minimize their importance. Employers aren’t paying people to do jobs that...
Do you have the magic?
Be aware, your attitude is showing. Our attitude creates the feeling nature people respond to. Attitude emits a presence and is like an atmosphere that...
Down the rabbit hole
When we fall down the rabbit hole, climbing out isn’t as hard as it seems. It’s easy to get drawn into the negativity and drama. People have told me...
Get rid of your big but
Big buts and boomerangs are holding us back from enjoying the goodness in life. In popular culture today, large, firm butts are considered attractive. Just look...
Thank you, annoying people
People can be so annoying. Argggghhhh! Modern life’s filled with delays, demands, reasons to wait. Life can become one big irritation. Our shoulders tense...
Living a life that matters
There’s nothing like the cold slap of a tragedy to wake us up. If any of us were to condense our lives into a few brief minutes, what would we say? If I...
It takes community to grieve
In death, Derek Flowers-Johnson is changing the way we think about community. It’s becoming more common to live in isolation from our neighbours. We may...