Marriage Matters
Flooding
Rick knew enough to know that you aren’t supposed to walk out on a conversation. But sometimes he just couldn’t help himself. He tried to just tune...
Making dreams come true
Several years ago we decided to re-do our flooring. Not an unusual undertaking but somewhat daunting none-the-less. If you’ve ever done it before you know...
How to change your partner
It was Rex and Maggie’s (not their real names) third visit to therapy when Rex turned to me and asked if he could just go to work while Maggie stayed with...
Do we need counselling?
Barry & Nicole weren’t miserable. They had never talked about divorce. There had not been an affair. Never a hint of violence. But there seemed to be a...
Make someone your super-hero
Wednesday morning I woke up to six inches of snow on my driveway. This was not in the forecast! So, instead of going to the gym I was shoveling it clear, only...
Never ending love
There’s something magical about having a child. It’s hard to put into words. Maybe even impossible. At the point when you see those little hands, barely big...
The art and science of love
What would you give for a road map to repairing your relationship starting today? What if you knew exactly how to take your relationship from strong to...
Are we making it?
Have you ever wondered what makes marriage work? I mean really work. About 40% of marriages end in divorce while another 20% report that while they have no...
Staying in love
We’ve all seen them. The love sick couple completely enthralled with each other. They just can't stop being together, touching each other or expressing their...
The Gottman Method
I am pleased to announce that as of May of this year I have successfully completed my certification as a recognized Gottman Therapist. I am the sixth Certified...
Softening conflict
Think about the last conflict you had with your partner. I know, it’s not the most pleasant of topics, but like it or not it’s something we all have to face...
On getting married
Everyone loves of good wedding. All the pomp and ceremony, the anticipation and grandeur. But mostly I think it’s about the joy ignited by the hope of a...
Affairs: Part 2
When infidelity within your marriage is exposed, it hits like cascading waves of emotional shock. Disbelief and betrayal become overwhelming. Everything you...
The affair
“The affair”, “Cheating”, “Adultery”. Theses are just a few of the names given to the devastating and life changing experience of discovering that...
What’s your perspective?
Earlier this week I was enjoying a cyber chat with my sister, who lives out of province. Our conversation wandered from work, to the economy, to politics....
Communication: overcoming barriers
Everyone knows that in order for marriage to work, there has to be communication. And yet there seems to come a time in every relationship, when it all comes to...
Conflict: Part Two
At the end of the last chapter of Rick & Manda’s fight, Rick stormed out of the house after feeling accosted by Manda’s, shall we say, rather direct...
Conflict: Part One
The lake view out of Manda’s kitchen nook was breathtaking. The silver sunset cast a sail boat’s shadow across the lake in way that took her breath away...
Marriage conflict
The honeymoon is over and the sparkle of that perfectly choreographed wedding ceremony seems like a distant memory. It’s not that you don’t love each other...
Making marriage better today
“If there were one thing you could do today that would result in immediately improving the health of your marriage would you do it?” I think it would be a...