Life Is never In balance

I confused someone the other day who was suggesting we meet during Christmas.

While I love the idea of getting together with friends at Christmas, this year has been exceptionally busy and I find myself looking forward to spending time with my wife and family and indulging a little less in parties and dinners.

My friend seemed concerned that I would not make the time to meet and how it wasn’t healthy to not socialize. I think his suggestion might have been that I was working too hard. 

The last statement is probably true. This has been a real heads down year and when the sun is shining, it is time to make hay. I explained that life is never in balance. He was confused and I never really took the time to explain that just like a guided missile, we move through balance.

For fleeting moments, we get a glimpse of what an organized and compartmentalized life is like. For now, however, the only compartment my colleague and I have seen is the inside of an aircraft cabin. 

Our quest for heaven on Earth or nirvana is rarely if ever achieved on this Earth.

We spend too much time worrying about creating the perfect life when we should be enjoying the journey. With small, incremental adjustments along the way, we can get closer to the target.

Next year, I would like to protect family time a little more. Does it mean that I won’t be as busy? Not at all, simply that I will adjust priorities a little. 

In the same vein, we spend so much time worrying about working toward balance that we forget to enjoy the downtime.

Years ago, my father was a partner in a printing business and would worry every time the level of orders in our factory dropped a little. I would always suggest that was exactly the time to take a holiday. In truth, the orders always came back, so why stress, take a break. 

It is hard to break out of a guilt cycle. You often may feel as though you have not worked hard enough to attain the balance you might be looking for. Consequently when you do take time off, you feel guilty. 

This Christmas, I may not be doing all the rounds to visit friends.

But I do wish you all a very Merry Christmas. I will always cherish the memories we have of our friendships and when I have downtime, rest assured, I will be just a little more social than I am now.


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Mark has been an entrepreneur for over forty years. His experience spans many commercial sectors and aspects of business. He was one of the youngest people to be appointed as a Fellow of the prestigious Institute of Sales and Marketing Management before he left the UK in 1988.

His column focuses on ways we can improve on success in our lives. Whether it is business, relationships, or health, Mark has a well-rounded perspective on how to stay focused for growth and development.

His influences come from the various travels he undertakes as an adventurer, philanthropist and keynote speaker. More information can be found on Mark at his website www.markjenningsbates.com

He is a Venture Partner with www.DutchOracle.com a global Alternative Investment company.

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