Do we ever really know where we’re going? Many people come to therapy to figure out where they are going. It seems that some people have a clear direction and go after it, while others struggle to find direction. I’m sure even the people who have clear direction feel doubts from time to time and wonder where they are going. I think this is natural and part of living a conscious human life. But maybe we never really know. Maybe life is supposed to partially happen.
Sometimes we get to places in our lives when it feels like we’ve hit a wall. What do we do? Most of us panic. But what if that wall was more of a natural directing agent? Or what if we just stayed still after running into the wall, awaiting the next sign to move. Instead, we panic and start running around like chickens with our heads cut off – then we really lose ourselves. Maybe we are not waiting long enough in the discomfort of not knowing where we are going. It is scary to wait. It means we have to trust. Whether that be in a higher power, or the reality that if we do not panic and wait patiently in the discomfort, something enlightening will happen. Or at least some direction will come our way. It does not always have to be a huge neon sign of enlightenment, but at least a whisper of direction.
I can get just as caught up in the frenzy for direction in my own life and as a therapist. It is easy for me to want to help clients move forward, or lateral, what have you, but maybe that is not always what they need from me. It might be what they want from me to help them relieve the discomfort, but maybe we both need to sit a little longer and feel the panic. What does it really have to say? And what type of clarity might come from just observing the wall (stuck place) and allowing it to bring us closer to ourselves, feeling even more alive.
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