Antidotes to Emptiness
Anger
Anger is an interesting emotion. I would say it is widely experienced and seldom understood. Anger is often vilified by our society, especially the mental...
Fear
There is not much else that gets in the way of what we want other than FEAR. Fear can be debilitating, exhausting, and down right aggravating. Many people do...
Cultivating being
People come to counseling for all sorts of reasons. Everyone brings with them different goals, expectations, hopes, and desired outcomes. For many people...
We""re all addicts
I believe a major problem in how the general public, as well as some professionals, sees addiction is that it is too narrowly defined. When we say the word...
Love as faculty
When we think of love and relationships what do we think of mostly? Experiencing love. Finding love. Being loved. At our deepest levels we ask ourselves, “Am...
Looking in the mirror
What if you are already living the life you’ve dreamed of? What if you are already the person you most admire? What if you were able to observe your whole...
Rejuvenation
Along the lines of the title of my column, Antidotes to Emptiness, I wanted to write about one way to bring fullness to our lives. Rejuvenation. What do you do...
New thinking about children
Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman co-wrote a book entitled , released in 2009. It is a very interesting read and one I recommend to parents. There are many areas...
Boundaries with addictive behaviors
I’ve written a lot about having compassion toward those struggling with addiction and that we need to remove a lot of the moral judgment. This perspective...
Harm reduction
Harm Reduction is a philosophy that is surrounded with a lot of controversy, confusion, and intrigue. What is it? What does it really mean? I would like to...
Shell of man
I recently read some articles for therapists addressing the needs of men in counselling. This is an area I have been thinking about for quite some time now but...
What is your belief system?
Is it important to have beliefs? Is it important to be spiritual, be a part of a religion, or remain secular? Is religion and/or spirituality the only way to...
How to see relapse positively
When someone struggling with addiction has a relapse it can feel like the end of the world – for both themselves and their loved ones. For most people, it...
Get out of your way
Who is in your way? What is in your way? Are you looking for more freedom in your life? What might that look like if you could wave a magic wand? What is your...
Inner peace
“Peace is found, not through repressing experience, but through acceptance of whatever comes up.” (Thomas Bien in his book Mindful Therapy). Most of us...
Salving deprivation
One use for addiction in a person’s life is to fill up the emptiness. We all do many things to fill the “hole” in our lives. I have clients in addiction...
Why counselling?
What is counselling? What goes on in a counselling session? It is just for those with real messed up lives, right? No, not true. It is just for those with...
De-dramatizing addiction
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but much to do about addiction is very dramatic. Addicted people themselves can often be dramatic, those who treat them can...
Chasing pleasure
What is addiction exactly? Is it using drugs? Is it being drunk too many times in a week? Is it eating more than one should, or surfing the Internet five hours...
Insight to addiction
For my first column I wanted to introduce myself and what this column will be about. I have worked in the field of addictions for the past five years and have...