Antidotes to Emptiness


Jan 3, 2012 / 5:00 am

I swore to myself that I wouldn’t write something about New Years, resolutions, change, etc. But this word “beginnings” is on my mind for a...

Holiday perspective

Holiday perspective

Dec 20, 2011 / 5:00 am

Last year at this time I wrote an article entitled Holiday Depression, addressing the fact that for many people this is a difficult time of year. Check that...

Paralysis of younger generations

Dec 6, 2011 / 5:00 am

I wrote a piece not too long ago entitled “The Lost Generations” that addressed some issues with the younger, more postmodern generations. I want to...

'The Denial of Death'

'The Denial of Death'

Nov 22, 2011 / 5:00 am

I am currently reading Ernest Becker’s revolutionary book, The Denial of Death. It has me thinking about many things: my own personal life, the life of my...

Letting go of your partner's addiction

Nov 8, 2011 / 5:00 am

Term: I’m going to use the term “addicted relationship” to mean when one person has an addiction and the other does not. Being in a...

Yin & Yang: explanation & experience

Yin & Yang: explanation & experience

Oct 25, 2011 / 7:00 am

We all want an explanation for our lives, our behavior, our thoughts, and for how the world works. We search it out, we think about it, we observe our lives and...

Thoughts to chew on

Oct 11, 2011 / 5:00 am

Anger is the way out of complacency. Repression amplifies. Love is not enough. Freedom is as freedom does. Operating from fear brings irony. Anger is a...

Counselling is not a quick fix

Sep 27, 2011 / 5:00 am

When I first started writing this column, part of my motivation was to bring more knowledge and understanding to the process of counselling/psychotherapy. I...

Childbirth and the Reality of Pain

Childbirth and the Reality of Pain

Sep 13, 2011 / 5:00 am

My wife gave birth to our third child this past weekend. Yes, we are sleep deprived and the other two are acting out in adjustment to such a major change to...

The lost generations

The lost generations

Sep 6, 2011 / 5:00 am

The Lost Generations: Function and Addiction in Generations X, Y, and Z. When I was working in a drug and alcohol treatment center, I noticed a phenomenon...

Simplicity and de-cluttering the mind

Simplicity and de-cluttering the mind

Aug 30, 2011 / 5:00 am

What makes you feel simple and grounded? For me, it is the smell of the inside of a certain type of book, or watching my children play. Sometimes it’s...


Aug 23, 2011 / 5:00 am

For people quitting addiction, one of the most difficult aspects is not the actual quitting, is not accepting they have a problem, it’s continuing to...

Waiting for direction

Waiting for direction

Aug 16, 2011 / 5:00 am

Do we ever really know where we’re going? Many people come to therapy to figure out where they are going. It seems that some people have a clear direction...

The Lie of Psycotherapy

Aug 9, 2011 / 5:00 am

In any growth endeavor we can often feel that once we do the work and experience some healing, we’ll have arrived, living happily ever after. I know I...

Expanding Services

Aug 3, 2011 / 5:00 am

I am expanding my help services to include life coaching and consulting. I’m going to explain what these services are about and how they fit into my...



Jul 27, 2011 / 5:00 am

There are many philosophies to what contributes to our development. In the psychological world it is mostly focused on the internal life of the individual, such...

Relationships for Adults

Jul 19, 2011 / 5:00 am

One area of relationships that I tend to help clients pay attention to is their own self in the relationship. We can often become so pre-occupied with what the...

Freedom and responsibility (and addiction)

Jul 12, 2011 / 5:00 am

The experiences of freedom and responsibility are very closely tied to addiction, but are so much more in the forefront of a human being’s struggle that...

Four noble truths of addiction

Four noble truths of addiction

Jun 14, 2011 / 7:00 am

Buddhism is founded upon what Siddhartha Gautama realized were the four noble truths of human existence. I want to take those four noble truths and apply them...

Shame and modern thought

Shame and modern thought

Jun 7, 2011 / 5:00 am

One could say that a huge reason people seek therapy or struggle in life is due to some aspect of shame. Shame is a sense that something is wrong with us, that...