Gastro Sexual

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He Says:

This past week I heard the funniest term on the radio. A guy being interviewed about his skills with the ladies in the kitchen mentioned it. Originating from England, it represents a new trend for men that is appearing all over the world including our peaceful Canada.

Gastro Sexual Men have realized that if they put the right amount of effort into it women go all soft in the knees just by watching them cook a nice meal. The trend of men being more and more present in kitchen is not that new, but now men are using this power for the greater good and they have a term to call themselves!

Houses of today are built with the kitchen being the focal point… we have huge open spaces, we have shiny expensive appliances, we have wine cellars connected to the cooking area and now we even have seats for people to watch the Gastro Sexual men do their thing. It is obviously different for every man, but the main idea is for non-professional chefs (“commoners”) to cook great meals in front of women who can’t seem to get enough of it. Men wear simple clothes, no aprons nothing that could look too girly - the lumberjack look of testosterone-filled jeans and frumpy shirts with sleeves rolled up works best. The sexiness of a man cooking is increased by 100% if the man manages to look like he knows what he’s doing, so some showmanship is a plus. You can see the ladies don’t want to watch him pull out a ready meal from the oven once they show up their primal instinct would rather see him chop veggies, flambé a sauce or even stuff some big piece of meat with his bare hands. The more the man touches food in front of them the weaker they get!

I think it’s about time that men see the power of food and the effects it can have on women. I have experienced that phenomenon many times in my life and especially since I started doing dinner parties in people’s homes. I don’t exactly consider myself a Brad Pit kind of guy, but more than once I got offers which you could say got me to blush a bit. I have seen firsthand the power of ingredients like chocolate or even crab or olives, but the difference with me is that I am a professionally trained chef, married and no longer in that single men market! As single men I totally understand why men would gravitate towards unconventional tools like cooking. Anything that can showcase a man’s skills in the house is always going to score big with the ladies.

This is my chef’s advice to men trying to add this skill to their repertoire of tools to find the women of their dreams:

Don’t ever try a new recipe for the first time on a potential candidate.
Don’t ever buy a ready meal to serve your audience (bad idea).
Don’t grill, as it will be expected. Keep the lady back on her heels.
Don’t cheap out on food, buy good ingredients - it will show that you care.
Don’t dump the food on the plate, try to work some sort of presentation that can blow her mind and make her go, “wow this man might be bald, but he sure can cook”.

Use powerful ingredients like chocolate to finish the meal and seal the deal.

Think simple food prepared well, and leave some stuff to do while she watches. Leave time for her imagination to do half the job for you.

Think comfort food like lasagna, pot roast, seafood chowder … all of these dishes have the potential to put the lady in a nesting, comfort kind of feeling. Send me an email if you need meal ideas, I am there for you.

She Says:

I have a biased opinion on this topic as I have had a man showing off in my kitchen for a bit more than a decade. Our shared interest in food was one of the main things that helped develop our relationship when we first met, and I did go weak in the knees when he served me chocolate desserts. I think the reason so many women are excited now is that this is one more way a man can show that he is interested in being well-rounded. Women have been out there, getting untraditional jobs and “breaking the glass ceiling” and maybe having men in the kitchen is just the male version of that. You know what they say about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes – it does wonders for your perspective.

I am a firm believer that this sense of adventure should be enhanced, and we can start young. If your man starts out interested in grilling, so be it! Let him get comfortable and he may move inside to cook things in the winter. Let him step outside the box if he wants to try a recipe, and be forgiving if it doesn’t quite turn out as planned. He will be a bigger man if you can be a bigger woman. On the flip side, how about us women taking an interest in some of their things? I don’t think that men necessarily want us with them all the time but a girl who is willing to roll her sleeves up and get dirty or put some waders on for a day fishing is sometimes as attractive as that same girl in a sexy dress and high heels. We used to call that being a tom boy – I’m sure there is a more trendy term now.

Despite the fact that children today are exposed to a world where their gender is not a consideration in many things they choose, I often see the girls still choosing pink and the boys choosing blue. It is important we remember to show them the real secret is in being as complete a person as you can be, and that means exploring opportunities in both camps. As Martin said, the most attractive man in the kitchen is proven to be the one who still wears his lumberjack shirt and jeans – he doesn’t have to let anyone, especially himself, forget he is a man. Women can get their sculpted nails dirty too as they adjust their own spark plugs, and I am sure the guys would find them attractive in the garage. At the end of the day, we’ll meet at the same dinner table.

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About the Author

Kristin Peturson-Laprise is a customer experience specialist by trade, which means she is someone passionate about people having a good time. 

Her company, Wow Service Mentor, helps businesses enhance their customer experience through hands-on training, service programs, and special event coordination.

Kristin enjoys her own experiences too, and that is what she writes about in this column. She and her husband Martin Laprise (also known as Chef Martin, of The Chef Instead) love to share their passion for food and entertaining.  

Kristin says:

"Wikipedia lists a gourmand as a person who takes great pleasure in food. I have taken the concept of gourmandise, or enjoying something to the fullest, in all parts of my life. I love to grow and cook food, and I loved wine enough to become a Sommelier. I call a meal a success when I can convey that 'sense of place' from where the food has come . . . the French call that terroir, but I just call it the full experience. It might mean tasting the flavours of my own garden, or transporting everyone at the table to a faraway place, reminiscent of travels or dreams we have had."


E-mail Kristin at:  [email protected]

Check out her website here:  www.wowservicementor.com


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