The Happiness Connection  

Dive into the new

I have many friends of all ages who have left long-term relationships in the past year or two.

As an observer of people, I am fascinated by the different attitudes they adopt as they move forward in their personal lives.

Who knew there could be so many different approaches to dating or finding connection with someone new? It ranges from avoidance, through on-line dating, to rekindling old relationships, and chance encounters.

I listen to their stories with a mixture of curiosity, amusement, and concern. It’s a different world to the one I inhabited when I was a young woman.

I admire their willingness and courage to go into the world and try something different; to create new stories.

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

For those of us who are a little longer in the tooth, when was the last time you did something for the first time in over a decade?

Creating new life stories is an important part of keeping your life vibrant and living consciously. There is nothing quite like the feeling that arise when you make your way through an unfamiliar experience and come out the other side.

When you are young, your life is full of opportunities to do things for the first time. Getting your first job, travelling without your family, or moving into your own home are common first-time experiences that present themselves naturally.

Depending on the choices you make, new experiences can surface less often as you age. Perhaps it is more accurate to say, it is easier to avert your gaze and avoid doing things that you are unfamiliar with as you get older.

You may have learned to play a very good game of risk avoidance. But just because that is the easy option, doesn’t mean it’s the best one. If you don’t want your life to get stale, it is time to create some new stories.

When an opportunity presents itself to make new friends, or do something that isn’t typical of you, say yes. If what you do doesn’t cause harm to you, another person, or the environment, why not?

Conscious living includes being mindful and living in the moment. This is easier to do when you are standing outside your comfort zone.

It is very difficult to be on auto-pilot when you are challenging your fear of heights or confronting your anxiety about going for a meal at the Keg by yourself.

If you are feeling terrified, explore that. Where in your body does that emotions live? What sensations are you feeling? Describe the emotions bubbling up inside of you?

What should you remember to include when you share this new story?

I’m not suggesting you have to seek out a daring adventure, although I would never discourage anyone from doing this. Get out into the world and be curious and observant. Opportunities will present themselves.

Creating new life stories is important if you want to live a vibrant and conscious life. It's never too late to start. The time is now.

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About the Author

Reen Rose is an experienced, informative, and engaging speaker, author, and educator. She has worked for over three decades in the world of education, teaching children and adults in Canada and England.

Research shows that happy people are better leaders, more successful, and healthier than their unhappy counterparts, and yet so many people still believe that happiness is a result of their circumstances.

Happiness is a choice. Reen’s presentations and workshops are designed to help you become robustly happy. This is her term for happiness that can withstand challenge and change.

Reen blends research-based expertise, storytelling, humour, and practical strategies to both inform and inspire. She is a Myers Briggs certified practitioner, a Microsoft Office certified trainer and a qualified and experienced teacher.

Email Reen at [email protected]

Check out her websites at www.ReenRose.com, or www.ModellingHappiness.com

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