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Manifest your future

If someone told you you could influence your future through manifestation, would you do it?

Surprisingly, most people wouldn’t.

It is seen as a hocus-pocus process and often misunderstood as meaning you don’t have to take action steps —  just sit and envision what you want.

Manifestation is an action step and it isn’t mystical, as it is often made out to be.

Manifesting events or your future is simply aligning your thoughts with what you want so all your conscious and sub-conscious energy is working to get you there.

Why do people manifest?

Because it works.

I’ll explain the ‘How’ in a moment, but first I invite you to focus on the ‘Why.’

The process works because it forces you to be specific about what you want or don’t want.

Most of us (myself included) wander along a path of distractions. We fill our spare time with objects, technology or satisfying other people’s needs without ever looking inward to what makes us fulfilled.

Manifesting will force you to slow down and think about your needs as well, which often allows you to give even more to those you love.

As the saying goes: You can’t pour from an empty cup.

It will take time to narrow down what fulfils you. Many people start with what they don’t want; that is often easier than understanding what you do; That brings us to the ‘How.’

Manifesting can be done with various methods. This list starts with a basic technique and progresses.
I encourage you to work through them all slowly and with patience. 

Start with what you don’t want

This is where I started, and it was very enlightening because everything you don’t want will have an opposite, but you must be specific.

For example: “I don’t want to be in my current place of employment” … break that down to be more specific …

  • Is it that you don’t feel a sense of purpose?
  • Is it that you feel under paid or under valued?
  • Is it the environment?

Maybe it is more than one, so make a list and then state the opposite.

Lack of purpose = What would give you purpose.

Turn your list of wants into reminders

Now that you have your list of ‘wants,’ make yourself reminders and place them throughout your daily life.

This is a very personal process, so be as discreet as you need.

  • Chimes on your phone,
  • Notes in your lunch, your locker, on your screen saver

Do whatever it takes to keep your thoughts focused on your next path. This is going to make you hypersensitive to opportunities.

Our distracted lives often make us miss signs. If you are focusing your energy to align with your thoughts, opportunities will show themselves.

They may have always been there, but through the manifestation process, you will start to notice them.

Having a list of ‘wants’ will also serve as a guide for actions. Each ‘want’ will have associated activities to stop or start.

An example: if you determined community involvement would give you a sense of purpose, you might stop spending your Saturday mornings watching TV and start volunteering at a local not for profit, which will increase opportunities to pursue that life path.

Meditate on it

Meditation takes a lot of patience and practice. However, if you are at this stage, there's a great guided meditation for manifestation by Dr. Joe Dispenza on Apple Tunes called Morning Meditation.

It is 23:53 minutes long. I do this meditation two of three times a week. If you enjoy it, I also highly recommend his books.

That leaves us with the ‘what.’ What can happen through manifestation?

Your world will get rocked. You will be faced with tough choices as the opportunities you manifested are presented to you. You might feel overwhelmed.

Know that you are strong enough to handle it. You willed it and opened yourself to the possibilities.

All you must do is say ‘Yes,’ have gratitude and follow your heart.

Happy manifesting! 



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Lessons from the World Cup

Taking a chance when the odds are against you 

Sometimes the odds are against you. Sometimes the likely outcome of failure is enough that most people wouldn’t even try or take the chance…

That is not true of successful people.

Successful people take that chance. No matter how small the glimmer of winning is, they play the odds and go for it.

This was evident in the final match of the World Cup of soccer. The match up of France and Croatia was exciting and full of shocking moments. It left me drawing comparisons to the approach of the Croatian team and people who are successful in life.

I’m not a soccer fan. I admire the athletes, but I never watch soccer until the World Cup comes on. In fact, if I’m being truly honest (apologizes to soccer lovers reading this), I don’t even watch the World Cup until the final game.

Nothing about that changed this year. I got the highlights of who was winning from the news and friends but only tuned in for the final.

It was a great match to watch. Although France was the predicted winner, Croatia held their own for the first part of the game.

After the half, France came out with an abundance of energy and took a 4-1 lead. I thought that was it for the small country of beach lovers however, there was a final goal from a Croatian player that was brilliant display of how persistence can win.

The ball was kicked to the France goalie with no players around. The goalie, Lloris, took the ball into his control and looked for someone to kick or throw it to. All he had to do was pick it up.

A Croatia player came running at full sprint toward the goalie. Considering the average soccer player runs the equivalent of a marathon each game, one would think they would use moments like this to catch their breath. There was almost no point to running at the goalie when he obviously had full control of the ball.

Almost.

Successful people will view an “almost no point in doing…” in the same light others view “Sure chance of win if you…”

They go for it.

The Croatian player, Mario Mandzukic, saw the possibility of that moment. He sprinted toward the goalie. Lloris was not expecting anyone to do so – he was calmly looking around when Mandzukic kicked the ball from under his nose and right into the net.

The moment was both exhilarating and shocking.

How many opportunities are missed in life because we don’t think we can succeed?

I’m positive that was not the only time a soccer player made that move against the odds and ended with the goalie simply picking up the ball. A pointless exercise that wasted valuable breath and energy – and yet the player persisted, knowing that one day, the goalie wouldn’t pick it up.

Are there opportunities every day for you to take a chance?

  • Maybe it’s suggesting a new approach for a problem to your leader at work 
  • Maybe it’s saying yes to the adventure you’ve been nervous about it
  • Maybe it’s as simple as trying a new hobby with your family.

It may not work out.

It may be a terrible experience.

Your family may not want to…

But what if they do? What if your leader is forever thankful for your suggestion and that event changes the course of your career?

What if the trip is the best experience you’ve ever had?

Taking a chance when the odds are against you could lead to the greatest moment of your life or a small fail that you’ll get over quickly.

Don’t let the possibility of the goalie picking up the ball stop you from the possibility of a huge success.

If you keep trying, one day you’ll kick the ball right into the net.   



Little tubes of death

They are around us every day – perhaps even in front of you at this moment. Little tubes of death that are seemingly innocent and yet cause mass devastation. 

Straws. 

Have you thought about straws? The unnecessary little plastic tubes that come in our drinks. Most of us take them right out and leave them on the table to be gathered and thrown out. 

There are some people who require them. There are some drinks that require them. However, for the most part, they are redundant (your lips were meant to do the job, right?). 

Straws are little, but think of every drink that comes with a straw in one day in one restaurant. Then compound that over 365 days. Times all the restaurants in our city. Over all cities in B.C… 

In the U.S,. 500 million straws are used each day. That is enough straws to fill 127 school buses every single day.

It’s estimated that three per cent of the trash covering Vancouver’s coastline is plastic straws and plastic stir sticks.

These little tubes of death end up in our oceans on our coastlines. Because of their size, animals mistake them for food. The straw that graced your drink a year ago could be the reason a turtle dies tomorrow. Or a bird. A dog running along the beach to fetch a ball and sees the colourful plastic straw in the surf. 

The truth is ugly, but there is a way for you to make a difference. 

In the spring, Vancouver became the first major city in Canada to fight straws. They introduced a “Single-use item reduction strategy” that restricts food vendors from automatically providing patrons with straws. 

Vancouver is also looking at ways to reduce usage of plastic cups, bags and other single-use items.

There has been some dialogue in the Okanagan about reducing straw usage, but you don’t need a city council report to start doing your part today. 

  • Tell your server you don’t need a straw. 
  • Servers ask your patrons if they need one. 
  • Restaurant owners put a label in your menu asking customers to let their server know if they require a straw. 

This is a challenge dropped to every Okanagan citizen to do their part: 

The fourth Friday in February is National Skip the Straw Day. Let’s start today so that by February, there are no straws to skip.



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Who cares what drives you

Leadership 101: Don’t ask if you don’t want the answer.

The worst thing performance leaders can do is ask questions when they have no intention of considering the answer in their future decisions.

A powerful example of this is the standard on-boarding question: “What drives you?”

Performance leaders usually nod at the answer and imply they will note it in the employee file for future reference. But do they?

“What drives you” is one of the most significant questions you can ask the young working force (such as millennials).

They are proud of their values and can communicate them clearly them because they’ve been blasting them all over social media for years. 

Millennials have values such as volunteering, flexible work arrangements, and freedom to schedule their day. If performance leaders ask their new hire “what drives you,” and notes it down – they’ve immediately set a standard for the new hire and future decisions.

For example, you are a new hire at a retail store. Your performance leader asks what motivates you… to which you passionately reply that flexibility in your work day means a great deal, so you can volunteer with a local not-for-profit.

The employer nods in understanding and writes it down to give the impression you’ve been heard. No further comment from the leader implies that it is OK to ask for flexibility going forward.

Imagine the disappointment when, the following week, you ask to start late and make up the time by working late to accommodate a charity event and the answer is ‘No.’ “what about the week after instead?” … met with “No” again – “that just doesn’t work for my store and our needs.”

Your No. 1 value, which the employer recognized, acknowledged and even wrote down, has been crushed – and that is the beginning of the end for a millennial.

Am I suggesting an employer should avoid that question? Absolutely not. I love the insight that question provides. However, as a performance leader, you must be ready with an explanation if the answer is not in line with how your business operates.

In that example of the retail store, the response to the flexibility issue could have been acknowledgement and then clarification that a request for time off must have two weeks notice or a vacation time arranged because of the limited open hours of the store.

The hire still feels heard, but won’t be set up for disappointment.

The bottom line is simple: Don’t ask if you don’t care or, assuming most people do care, be ready to clarify what are possible ways to incorporate that identified need in your organization or relationship immediately.

If the answer to what drives someone is not possible, say so with empathy and explan why. Eliminate the disappointment later with a real and clear conversation now.   

The more time devoted to clearly outlining what is possible with your business, relationship, or volunteering, will mean greater success for everyone involved. 

“A successful person finds the right place for themselves. But a successful leader finds the right place for others” — John Maxwell



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About the Author

Like most people, Christy has taken many paths. On the officially documented life list, she is a certified yoga teacher, an advanced open water diver, a financial adviser, a Harley rider and owner, an author, a community advocate.

She has been trained in coaching, negotiations and communication studies. She competed at a provincial level in competitive swimming and now has a passion for overall fitness.

On the un-documented list, Christy’s diverse experience is both positive and full of pot holes. She is the founder and CEO of a start-up company that never made it past the start-up phase. She has enough tattoos to classify as a walking adult colouring book. 

She has gone through all the identity phases at different times in her life: hippie, gothic, classy professional, biker... and is now a unique blend of them all. She a spiritual junkie and is addicted to adrenalin, learning and travel.

The bottom line: She is full of love and lessons with a hope that those who read this and connect with her will benefit from what she learned and be inspired to reach for the limitless possibilities of life.

Connect with her at:[email protected]



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