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Who inspires you?

We all have tough times when life feels rough or we feel stuck.

I had a tendency to withdraw during rough times.

When I did this, I felt alone and shut-off from the goodness and joy of life. It was hard to pull myself out of the rut.

What do you do when you’re feeling challenged or at low ebb?

While taking time to pause and reflect is helpful, getting stuck in life’s troughs is painful.

A practice that’s been invaluable for me is reflecting on people whose lives and journeys inspire me. I love drawing from their stories.

I remember that anything’s possible. If they can do it, so can I, if I choose to.

I have many inspiring people in my life, each one offering me a unique view of human potential and possibility. I’ve learned to turn my mind toward them when I feel stuck or down.

Who inspires you? If them, then why not you?

One person who continually lifts and inspires me to greater ways of being is Barbara Samuel, a local singer, vocal coach, and minister.

Simply spending time with Barb lifts my spirits. Her love and joy are infectious. Her life reminds me to be willing to stretch myself, and grow outside of my comfort zone.

Barb’s a woman of strong faith, who reveals the power of living life based on intention, vision, and courage. She faces life head-on, rising above challenge, recognizing anything’s possible.

While living what may appear to be a charmed life to many, Barb works hard, constantly remembering her life’s purpose of creating relationship with others through music, and to be all she can be.

She chooses to be a role-model for her grand-babies.

Barb spends herself consistently, uplifting people as she travels through life, leaving a ripple of joy and inspiration in her wake.

Barb shares the gift of her many blessings saying, “I just want people to be happy, to create a moment and a memory of joy and happiness.”  She does this on a consistent basis.

Life has a way of stretching and growing us past our comfort zones if we’re willing to embrace new possibility and challenge. It’s easy to stay within our own comfort zone, declining new challenge, creating regret for missed opportunity.

While fear stops many from living their greatest potential, what scares Barb the most is not seizing the opportunities life brings.

Barb reminds me that anything’s possible, and life’s too short to play small. She’s has the courage to say yes when opportunity knocks, even when it’s scary.

Barb’s life has been a journey of self-discovery, of finding talents and abilities she didn’t know she had.

Having grown comfortable with her role of lead singer in the Kelowna band, Sista B and the Boyz, Barb’s said yes to new opportunities that would frighten many.

She’s learned to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Last year, never having acted, Barb accepted the role of Deloris Van Cartier in Kelowna Actor Studio’s Sister Act. Her new talent was revealed, as she lit up the stage, to the delight of audiences.

Not willing to rest there, she’s now accepted the new challenge to share herself in Creekside Theatre’s upcoming Rock Me Baby. Barb’s growing yet again, as she shares more about herself and her journey.

Rock Me Baby is a celebration of Women and Music, showcasing the best of women’s music from the 1960’s to today. Each choreographed song in the seven sets of this upcoming production holds special meaning for Barb, as she feels it’s time to reveal more about herself and her journey with her fans.

It’s easy to play it small and safe, but then do we really live our full potential?

Barb joked in saying falling down while wearing high-heels is her greatest fear. In reality, what scares her most is not doing it; it’s fear of walking away from new opportunities when they arise, and the empty feeling that would follow.

We miss life’s opportunities when we stay stuck in our comfort zones. Fear of change and failure can stop us, but we lose out.  Yes, we could fall down, but if we do, we can always get up and begin again.

Barb Samuel inspires me to show up in life, to move out of my comfort zone, to risk becoming more, and to live a life of no regrets. She reminds me of the importance of one person showing up to say yes.

What talent or opportunity is waiting to express through you? What limiting stories get in the way?  Are you willing to face the fear and do it anyway?





Be grateful you're selfish

I’m a very selfish person.

I’m cracking up as I realize the self-serving nature of practices that I thought were more about other people than about me.

In a society where striving for the next thing is often the norm, it’s easy to forget the goodness in our lives. When we forget, we’re missing out on experiencing the benefits of gratitude.

As a child, I was taught to write thank-you notes when I received a gift. Back then, it was more of a duty, and I missed out on experiencing the benefits of expressing gratitude. The intention behind our actions matters.

As Thanksgiving approaches, it’s a great time to consider the importance of counting our blessings, and harvesting the bounty gratitude has for our health.

Research reveals people who cultivate gratitude experience:

  • a reduction in toxic emotions, such as envy, frustration, and regret
  • reduced depression and anxiety
  • stronger immune systems
  • fewer aches and pains
  • fewer symptoms of stress
  • better sleep
  • greater happiness
  • more enthusiasm and energy
  • greater determination and better focus in achieving goals
  • better resilience when challenged
  • greater optimism
  • stronger relationships
  • increased tendency to exercise

As science reveals the positive impact gratitude has on our health, wellness, and quality of life, I realize my expressions of gratitude likely benefit me more than others.

Keeping a gratitude journal is helpful. We can increase the benefits of this practice if we don’t just make a simple list of what we’re grateful for, but we add the reasons why we are grateful.

When we do this, we move it from being an intellectual exercise into becoming a whole-body experience. We then feel the sense of gratitude moving through our bodies even more.

With an established gratitude practice, I find myself paying more attention to the good that happens through my day, helping to over-ride the very human tendency to pay more attention to what’s challenging.

There’s a saying of what we appreciate, appreciates. I know this to be true.

The other side of the equation is, what we don’t acknowledge and give our energy to, withers.

It’s easy to take what we have for granted. We can overlook the importance and blessing of people in our lives and fail to tell them we appreciate them and why.

Thanksgiving reminds us to pause and consider the good we do have, and gives us the opportunity to express our appreciation to those who support our lives and to acknowledge our blessings.

The practice of card writing has continued into my adult life, and I delight in sending out decorated cards to people who’ve gifted me or touched my life.

Expressing my gratitude is no longer a duty, as it was in my childhood. As I write each card, I envision the person, and think about the way they touch my life.

I can feel the sense of gratitude in my body as the surge of beneficial body chemicals courses through me. This increases my quality of life.

This Thanksgiving weekend, I invite you to consider the good in your life. Let those dear to you know you’re grateful and why, and harness the benefits of gratitude.

Happy Thanksgiving!



How good is your memory?

Who was the actor who always played the bad guy?

Man, I can see his face, but who the heck is he?

In the past, we’d ask the question, and if unanswered, let it linger, only to delight when the answer finally fell-in.

In my house, it wasn’t uncommon for someone to suddenly shout out the answer to a question, even hours later. We’d all chuckle and congratulate the person, amazed at the way memory sometimes works.

Our friend Jeff’s memory is full of remarkable facts from life and history. It amazes me what he remembers and the diverse facts he has stored inside his memory bank. We frequently marvel and admire his ability to remember. He’s a living Wikipedia.

With technology ever available to answer our questions and offer up fun facts, we’ve developed a new game of ask Mr. Google. We no longer have to wait for the answer to our questions to arise from memory, but now try to be the first to find the answer on the internet.

It’s such a delight, and a relief to my wondering mind to find the answer to my questions —  or is it?

I’ve become the queen of searching information on the internet, finding the right combination of words to come up with the answer. This is a skill set of its own.

Recently, I’ve started to question whether my relationship with Mr. Google may be impacting my ability to remember.

Neurons that fire together wire together.

Our brains strengthen a memory each time we use it.

What happens to my memory when I stop using it? Does it affect my ability to remember? I started to notice it does.

I used to know all of my friend’s phone numbers off the top of my head.

Not so much these days, as I rely on speed dial on my phone. Heck, I recently had to look up my husband’s cellphone number. It startled me to have to do this.

I used to be an excellent speller, but this ability has also been impacted, as I rely on spell-check and auto-correct. I have to look up words I used to know how to spell.

Fascinated by research revealing London cab-driver’s brains were more densely wired in areas responsible for spatial awareness, I’ve also started to question my increased reliance on Google Maps.

I love plugging in an address and being accurately guided to my destination.

It’s eased a lot of tension between my husband and I, as I’m no longer responsible for accurately interpreting a map when we travel. Yet, I’ve noticed a decreased ability to remember what streets to turn down when navigating places, without the assistance of technology.

It turns out this inability to recall what’s easily available on the internet is normal. If we know we can find information again easily, we’re less likely to commit it to memory. It’s called digital amnesia.

While I love what technology can do for me, I don’t want to have to rely on artificial intelligence if it comes at the expense of my own memory. I don’t want a fading cell battery to be the cause of concern, or have to grab my phone when asked for a phone number I should know.

I know I need to make some changes.

Jeff remembers because he uses his memory. As he shares what he knows, he jogs our memories, and often times, we remember too. That, of itself, is delightful. It’s fabulous to recall what you already know.

I’m now creating a new habit of trying to remember instead of looking things up. I hope people are patient with me, as I search my memory bank.





Mach4 hair ablaze

I’m losing my mind! What’s wrong with me?

I can’t remember what I the heck I came into this room.

Why didn’t I think of that earlier, when I needed it?

I hear people call it Sometimers. Sometimes I remember, and sometimes I don’t.

As the epidemic of stress grows, people may question their ability to remember, frightened about their thinking, and wondering if they have early-onset dementia.

Thankfully, for most of us, challenges with remembering, and thinking of solutions to life challenges has nothing to do with dementia, but it has everything to do with stress.

The stress epidemic not only challenges our physical health, but it impairs the ability to remember and to come up with simple solutions, as well as our emotional intelligence.

Fight-or-flight is the status quo and feels normal for many people.

I recently cringed as I heard someone say:

“if you’re not busy and stressed, you’re not doing enough. That’s just the way it is these days.”

That may be the way it is, but we don’t have to accept it. It’s not a fun or healthy way to live. It makes us sick. Most visits to the doctor’s office are related to stress.

For many years, I didn’t know there was another way. Mach4 hair-ablaze was my way of life.

 I thought the pit in my belly was normal. As soon as my eyes opened in the morning, I’d leap out of bed and get busy.

Busyness was a distraction from what was happening inside me, it numbed the feeling.

In the midst of my descent to burnout, I had no idea what was happening inside of me.

All I knew is my sleep was impaired, my muscles were tense, and I thought I was losing my mind.

My memory grew poor, so I started to keep ever-expanding lists and notes, and notes and lists to refer to my notes and lists.

I had frequent shocks of adrenaline run through my body, causing my mind to race. I’d worry even more, thinking I’d forgotten something.

Often, this would happen in the middle of the night, awakening me from much needed sleep.

I was over-reactive to minor situations, and often irritable. I’d find myself just staring blankly into space if given a moment to breathe. There are periods within that time I have absolutely no memory of.  

It was terrifying, and the fear only made everything worse.

Sounds dramatic, doesn’t it?

Ashamed and terrified, trying to fake I was OK, I lived a life of quiet desperation, not knowing the solution was closer than I could’ve imagined.

I’ve worked with many people who think they’re going to feel better once they retire, only to find the feelings of stress are compounded.

Their minds and bodies have grown accustomed to the patterns of stress, and didn’t receive the memo they were no longer required, so they keep showing up as the stress response in the body.

The work that served as the source of and distraction from their stressful feelings is gone, but the stressful patterns inside of them have been established and continue to function.

They don’t get to enjoy the fruits of their labours.

We can try to calm the busy world, to avoid life and stress, but the most powerful place to take action is within our own minds.

It’s an inside job. Mindfulness practices changed my life.

Life’s always got its stressful moments. It’s not what happens to us that matters the most, it’s how we respond that’s key.

The brain changes for the better when we engage in mindfulness practices. We can become resilient.

With mindfulness practice, the fight-or-flight centre in our brain gets smaller, and we engage the executive centre. Our bodies learn a new way, and the random shots of adrenaline and cortisol released by the body because of our habits of stress, are reduced.

Mindfulness is a buzzword these days. We can know a lot about something without ever really knowing it. I find this is the case with mindfulness these days.

We don’t get a flatter abdomen or bigger muscles by reading about the gym; we have to do the exercises. So too with mindfulness.

It’s powerful and effective when we commit to practicing it for our own health and happiness.

You owe it to yourself.



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About the Author

Corinne is first a wife, mother, and grandmother, whose eclectic background has created a rich alchemy that serves to inform her perspectives on life.

Corinne, a registered nurse with a master’s degree in Health Science, is a staff minister with the Centre for Spiritual Living Kelowna, and a hospice volunteer. She is an adjunct professor with the school of nursing  at UBC Okanagan, and is currently teaching smartUBC, a unique Mindfulness program offered at UBC, to the public. She is an invited speaker and presenter.

From diverse experience and knowledge, personally and professionally, Corinne has developed an extraordinary passion for helping people to gain a new perspective, awaken, and to recognize that we do not have to be a slave to our thoughts or to life; we are always at a point of change.

Through this column, Corinne blends her insights and research to provide food for the mind and the heart, to encourage an awakening of the power and potential within everyone.

Corinne lives in Kelowna with her husband of 41 years, and can be reached at [email protected].



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