The Dad Vibe

Learning to love Dexter

Dec 5, 2016 / 3:00 pm

Thanks for the emails and calls asking when The Dad Vibe would return, it’s nice to be missed (says my ego). With four energetic children, a cool, loving...

Brink of divorce? Wait.

Feb 7, 2016 / 12:00 pm

“Your one idea saved my marriage.” The Good Men, a biweekly men’s group that I run, has a simple mandate: To help each other be better men....

My genetically average kids

Jan 8, 2016 / 6:00 am

My kids are athletically genetically average. I am ok with that. We have exposed our children to as many activities as life, time, and money will allow. We...

"Santa's dead??"

Dec 25, 2015 / 6:00 am

Dearest Santa, I know you are reading this letter at your busiest time, and for that I do apologize. Having paid my dues in Christmas retail, I always hated the...

People, not things

Dec 11, 2015 / 6:00 am

Facebook can waste a ton of your valuable time with Cat Fail videos, but every once in a blue moon, a gem will cross a “newsfeed”. Last week, the...

Your wife hates this

Nov 27, 2015 / 6:00 am

Four things your wife hates about you ~ Inspired by my recent Gottman Couples therapy training, here are four things your wife loathes about you. You, and these...

Just say no!

Oct 30, 2015 / 6:00 am

I love older people and the wisdom they give. As I sat with a group of spry seniors, I overheard this gem. “Parent’s don’t say...

But . . . who comes first?

Oct 16, 2015 / 5:00 am

Out of the blue a friend asked me - on New Years Eve, of all times - is your relationship with your kids more important than your relationship with your spouse?...

Gay black female president

Oct 2, 2015 / 5:00 am

Savvy universities annually send their professors cheat sheets to educate and prepare them for their incoming new students. These cheat sheets are chockfull of...

Crank up the step-dad love!

Jun 19, 2015 / 5:00 am

Father’s Day is my favourite day of the year. Period. Father’s Day has not been a national holiday as long as Mother’s Day (1972 vs. 1910),...

Baby, beggar and a left turn

Jun 5, 2015 / 5:00 am

I was driving in a bad mood. I don’t even remember what was wrong. I guess something in my entitled, privileged life wasn’t working out the way I...

'Mommy's house is better'

May 22, 2015 / 6:00 am

When my ex-wife came out four years ago, I knew MY world was never going to be the same, but I quickly realized that my children’s world was about to look...

These Dads get it!

May 8, 2015 / 5:00 am

Last Sunday, I was the host and DJ for the 10th Annual Father Daughter Dance, a dance that started back in 2005 with only 17 dads. We thought 17 dads coming was...

Naked in front of kids?

Apr 24, 2015 / 5:00 am

Let me set the scene for the last time my son ever saw my penis... It was between the second and third period of a junior hockey Rockets game. There were not...

Spousal resentment meter

Apr 10, 2015 / 5:00 am

Late last week, we took our Spousal Resentment Meter (SRM) from a volatile 6 back down to a calm 0. Psychologist Dr. Alison Poulsen has a great definition of...

'50 Shades of You'

Mar 13, 2015 / 5:00 am

There are no handcuffs or blindfolds in this movie... No retakes, no clever editing, no body doubles; it’s you, raw and uncut.... This is the movie of...

How to raise a kid no one likes

Feb 13, 2015 / 5:00 am

You avoid them at work. You get stuck talking to them at parties. They dated your best friend’s roommate. These are the adults that no one likes. How did...

Daddy's gone? Where?

Jan 16, 2015 / 5:00 am

Unlike retailers and children everywhere, I do not look forward to December and I am thankful that it is over. Although Santa’s arrival is awesome,...

My step-dad struggles

Dec 5, 2014 / 5:00 am

“Our son did that!” “You mean your son or my son?” “Yeah, guess what stunt your son pulled today?” With more and more...

I know why you two fight: Part 2

Nov 21, 2014 / 5:00 am

In part 1, we looked at the first reason why you two may fight, your protective self vs. your authentic self. Now I want to talk about the great Terry Real,...