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The Dad Vibe

Your Mom is a lying witch!

Apr 18, 2014 / 5:00 am

I wrote this article in early February while in New Orleans at the Dad 2.0 summit: a gathering of influential dad writers, marketers, speakers, and bloggers. On the airport shuttle bus to the hotel, I witnessed something that made me sick to my stomach. While most people ride a shuttle bus in...

R we teaching our children 2 B dumb?

Apr 4, 2014 / 5:00 am

I don’t want to raise ungrateful kids. I don’t want to raise unhealthy kids. I don’t want to raise kids with low self-esteem. And after having dinner last month with internationally renowned children’s singer and advocate Raffi, I realized also I don’t want to...

You better than your Dad?

Mar 14, 2014 / 5:00 am

Of course you are right? You are more evolved that your dad – he was more “hands off”, harder to reach, more authoritarian than nurturer. You are more connected and involved with your kids, but are you really a better dad? How do we define that? “Better Dad”?...

My kid needs to suffer...

Jan 17, 2014 / 5:00 am

As parents, our natural born instinct is to protect and shelter our children from pain, harm, or any negative consequences. However, to grow and thrive, they need to suffer setbacks and failures to learn, and prepare for life. So the question shouldn’t be IF we should let our kids...

To find out or not to find out?

Jan 10, 2014 / 5:00 am

Last year was awesome. My Dad Vibe ‘tribe’ continues to grow and I want to quickly thank all of you for your support and sharing. How exciting to have an article go viral. I’m hoping 2014 will be even bigger. One thing is for sure, my family will be larger as we welcome, in...

You and your anus

Dec 13, 2013 / 5:00 am

Announcer Voice: “Welcome to another edition of “Starfish Sports. Here is your host, winner of 5 Buck-Eye News Hawk awards, Ben Dovermann!” Ben: “Good day sports fans, we are live on location with a COL network exclusive. Today, I am speaking with Jeff Hay, the newest...

Loving my red-headed stepchild...

Nov 29, 2013 / 5:00 am

This is a tough article to write as my vulnerabilities and weaknesses will be revealed. I have had the opportunity to work with other people’s children and treat them as my own through various jobs running a childcare centre, directing a summer camp, and years spent teaching and coaching....
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God Bless the Lost Boys of Sudan

Nov 22, 2013 / 5:00 am

The “Lost Boys of Sudan” is a horrific story, both chilling and incredibly sad. Tragically enough, it’s also one of the most effective parenting tools I have ever found. In my never ending quest to help my children develop compassion and an attitude of gratitude, I stumbled...

Do you think you are better than me?

Nov 15, 2013 / 5:00 am

No, this question is not “You vs. Me” in a test of parenting skills. No, it is not a question to be asked between a stay-at-home dad and a working dad. This question is about your relationship with your spouse. This was a golden question that came up in a friend’s...

A kid to share a drink with!

Nov 8, 2013 / 5:00 am

I had time to kill waiting for a friend at a pub. I knew no one in this pub, yet sitting on that bar stool, on a cloudy Tuesday afternoon, I received one of the best pieces of parenting advice ever from the Irish gent sitting two bar stools away. Long story short, after awkward introductions,...

That's my daughter, the slutty pirate

Nov 1, 2013 / 5:00 am

What in the world has happened to Halloween costumes? I don’t see the tin man and the scarecrow anymore, all I see are sluts and axe murdering zombies. Where have all the fun costumes gone? Why is it just sexy or killers? I need to rant – maybe I’m showing my age, but I...

I was a bad dad today!

Oct 25, 2013 / 5:00 am

Written in the spirit of Dr. Seuss I didn't plan on it. It just happened. I woke up with the best of intentions, But ended up with a day of frustrations. I didn't inspire, I didn't encourage, I didn't do much, Not a bounce on a tramp, A...

Seven lessons from "Breaking Bad"

Oct 11, 2013 / 5:00 am

“Breaking Bad” is being called by many as the greatest television drama ever. And I couldn’t agree more. {Spoiler alert, stop reading here if you haven’t completed the series yet!} If you are one of the four people in the Western world that has not experienced this...

The McBlunder heard across Canada

Sep 28, 2013 / 5:00 am

I am not a crazy, fanatical person… at least not yet. But please picture this ad campaign… “We have a brand new line of power tools we are excited to share with you – the latest and easiest power tools you will ever use! Recently, we put them to the ultimate test. We...

What's a mother f#$ker Dad?

Sep 20, 2013 / 5:00 am

Great to be back writing for you again after taking a little time away. In my other life, I am wedding entertainment ‘director’ – MC/DJ and August was a killer month with 21 events. So in my ‘down-time’, I decided it was better to be a DAD than to write about being a...

How to be Cool 101

Aug 2, 2013 / 5:00 am

As I look around the baseball diamond, I see two teams of 8-year-olds. There are some kids that are really into the game, some that talk too much, some that don’t talk at all, some that are obnoxious, some that are blissfully unaware. I found myself fast forwarding to their high school...

Hugs: Are you raising a sissy?

Jul 19, 2013 / 5:00 am

“Daddy, I can’t do it.” “Yes, you can.” “Daddy, I’m scared.” “I’m right here…” “Dad, I want to go home!” “You get right back in there mister and get that job!” As I touched on in...

How I became worry-free!

Jul 12, 2013 / 5:00 am

Back when I was drinking beer with the aid of a funnel and sleeping wherever I came to rest, I really didn’t worry about much. Sure I worried about who had cash for the pizza man, and what I was going to do with my life, but largely, I lived a carefree life. When I became a father, my...

Tips to better balance family and work

Jun 21, 2013 / 5:00 am

I want to be a great father and I want fulfilling career. Do I have to choose one or the other? Hell no! I have two full-time jobs, one as wage earner and one as nurturing dad. I want it all! Fatherhood, while not always trumpeted in decades past, is now becoming a cool part of men's...

Crash the helicopter...

Jun 14, 2013 / 5:00 am

Hello, my name is Jeff H. I was a helicopter parent for the last six years, but I have recently seen the light and understand the long term harm I was doing to my children!” Welcome Jeff. We are all recovering Helicopter parents. There is no judgment here. I look around the room. We...
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About the Author

Jeff Hay… is a Kelowna based writer, motivational speaker, parenting coach, and father of three. Along with writing for Castanet, Jeff also writes for the Huffington Post, the Good Men Project, and the National Fatherhood Initiative in the United States.  When he is not playing his favourite role of “DAD”, Jeff is speaking throughout Canada as a popular parenting educator and working on his website – www.thedadvibe.com and his parenting book for Dads, “Wait Till Your Father Gets Home!” Jeff dedicates his life’s work to improving the well-being of children by increasing the proportion of children growing up with involved, responsible, and committed fathers.

E-mail Jeff your thoughts or questions anytime at [email protected]

 







The views expressed are strictly those of the author and not necessarily those of Castanet. Castanet presents its columns "as is" and does not warrant the contents.



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