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Find your bliss

Are you your own worst enemy? Every once in a while my old habit of self-sabotage reappears and positive thinking disappears. I am left with feelings of not-good-enough and the old self-pitying "why me?" attitudes.

Today, I asked myself: "What do I tell others who struggle with the old negative tapes and mindsets?" I thought about conversations with several friends who are feeling stuck and frustrated and recalled my suggestion was to follow their bliss. I have been especially adamant about this philosophy when it comes to career. So many people are unhappy in their jobs and find it hard to stay motivated day to day.

I followed my bliss when I started to write a book several years ago. I decided to do this in order to escape the stress and worry I was suffering as a result of a failing retail business – a business I had put endless hours of sweat and tears into. I listened to my heart, rather than my head, and started doing what I not only wanted to do, but felt a desire to do. Today I am writing a second book. When I am writing, I know I am following my bliss.

Self-Defeating Thoughts

Self-defeating thoughts come from your head, not your heart. Ask yourself what lives in your heart? What brings you joy and contentment? When you follow your heart you will find happiness and peace-of-mind. I believe I have an ability to communicate universal ideas, feelings and emotions through words. When I do, it feels good and my soul says "yes" to me.

A friend and I met for tea recently and she was complaining about her job as a server in a restaurant. I remembered a couple of similar stories of past jobs she’d had and commented that there seemed to be a pattern there. I also remembered a time when she was creating the most spectacular tutus for friends and donating the proceeds to children in a third-world country. She enjoyed the creativity it allowed her while the proceeds made a difference in the world. She agreed that she feels joyful when creating and fulfilling a passion inside her.

When you face resistance in your life, it’s a sure sign you are not following your bliss. It’s the universe’s way of guiding you to make a new plan. Some people engage in the same actions repeatedly – for example, they keep picking the same kinds of partners, or a similar job to the last one that they left because they felt unfulfilled. This is a form of resistance – you open a new door, but you pick the same outcome again.

 

Watch for the Signals

If you need clarity on how to find and follow your bliss ask the universe for guidance and then watch for the road signs. They always appear, just ask and pay attention. Sometimes you may not like the guidance you receive, but with acceptance and a little faith everything becomes clear over time. For example, you will see why the outcome you thought you wanted, like getting more deeply involved with that unhealthy man or woman you were dating, was not going to lead you to your bliss. You were sad in the moment but grateful in the long run.

What makes you smile? What makes your heart sing? What gives you a sense of peace and contentment? What are you really good at? Do more of that and you will discover your bliss.

This article is written by or on behalf of an outsourced columnist and does not necessarily reflect the views of Castanet.



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About the Author

Tommi Hanley has a degree in journalism from Ryerson University. She owns an event company in Kelowna, Shop the Valley Destination Management and is the former lead instructor of the Event Promotions & Management program at the Centre for Arts and Technology. She launched her affiliate events company, purepower events with Kathy Reid in 2013.

Visit the purepower website here: http://www.purepowerevents.com

Contact e-mail: [email protected]

 

 



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