Guest list guidelines
Oct 24, 2013 / 5:00 am
We all need to have a budget in mind for weddings and obviously the more people the more money your wedding is going to cost. Your guest list is usually one the first places you will start when planning your big day and it can spiral out of control pretty easily if you let it. Here is a set of guidelines to keep it all manageable and keep control of your spending:
Rule 1: If you are pretty sure you do not think you will remember someone in 10 years then they don’t need to be included in the biggest day of your life. This will likely include work colleagues (unless you are especially close with some of them), your casual acquaintances and their dates. Remember it’s okay to only invite a couple of people from your work. Are you really going to invite people because you feel bad and really, would they do the same?
Rule 2: Your friends do not need to bring a date unless they are in a serious relationship or are engaged or married. You really don’t need to have random people that you don’t know help you celebrate your marriage. Just like Rule # 1, will you know them in a couple of years anyway? This is okay to ask of people, just try to word it nicely in your invitation saying for example, “We have reserved _X_ amount of seats in your honor.”
Rule 3: Invite your family. While I am sure you have tons of amazing friends, it’s important that your family is first. They are the ones likely to be more upset about not being invited …especially when it comes to special celebrations. They are excited for you and they want all the people they love there to watch you take the next step in your life. This is a proud moment for parents so listen to what they would like as well. Unfortunately they might want to invite close friends that have been a part of their life and maybe somewhat in yours, but remember they have been dreaming about this day just as long as you have.
Rule 4: While on the topic of family, the WHOLE family doesn’t need to come. Second or third cousins, their spouses and children can be left off unless you are close with them of course. Another note on this, you are welcome to say adults only, this is your wedding, you’re not doing it to offend anyone.
Rule 5: Do not do an "A" list and a "B" list and wait to see who see who is coming. If the guest didn’t make it onto the "A" list in the first place then why would you want them there at all?
Remember, your guest list really is the number one defining factor in your budget. You may think oh it’s only eight more people, but those eight people make one more table and that table will need food, liquor, decor, linens, favours, cake…the list goes on. So grab a red pen and get back to work because I am sure most of you would rather that the ones that mean the most to you have the most memorable time and that’s much easier to do when your budget reflects that! Last but not least, try not to stress too much over the guest list because at the end of the day as long as the two most important people are there, nothing else matters.
Read more Lovestruck articles
- Staycation or honeymoon? Dec 5
- Grooming the groom Oct 31
- Guest list guidelines Oct 24
- Make your wedding your own! Oct 17
- Hair and makeup basics Oct 3
- Getting down to the dress basics Sep 5
- Times we love doing favors! Jul 25
- The DJ vs. the iPod Jun 20
(Click for RSS instructions.)