Communication is often one of the most crippling components of any relationship that disintegrates before our eyes. As our culture progresses further and further into a technological age, it becomes easier to avoid conversation and truly express the reality of the smallest situation. Of course we can thank technology for creating more efficiency in our lives, but we can also credit some of the largest emotional ‘scream cry’ sessions to a misunderstood text message.

Like any relationship, the one with your Hairstylist is another that with time, evolves and builds into a glorious inner understanding of who you are as a person. For many, the time spent in the chair is almost like therapy. We get to talk about the exciting milestones of life: child birth, weddings and vacations. Sometimes, we even get to know some of the deepest secrets: divorce, infidelity and inner turmoil. It’s true for many, the relationship with your Hairstylist is almost sacred - a bond that is difficult to break.

Living in this comfort zone has challenges of its own. You have probably experienced the ‘5th visit’ to your Hairstylist where you sit down for your regular six week reservation and the first few words are an update on your personal life. The Hairstylist begins to cut and finish your hair only for you to realize that you had been searching the web for new styles to enhance and evolve your image. Where did the shortfall happen? Why now then ever do you feel unfulfilled?

Hairstylists are experts in personal image enhancement and beauty care first and foremost. Often they do not posses a degree in psychology or counseling- the truth is, they know hair and fashion. I advise that anyone who enters the salon, to use the first five minutes as communication time. Here are some steps to help you discover a new you:

1. Am I happy with my overall look? Everything is constantly evolving, and by universal law- nothing remains the same. Is today the day that you seize the moment and change your signature look? Or are you content in re-creating what you already have?

2. Is there anything that has challenged you with this look? Quiz your expert on professional tips they can extend to make your morning styling routine easier, or ask them to change an aspect of the haircut that isn’t sitting quite right.

3. Are you pleased with how the haircut and/or colour has worn over the past 6 weeks? If you experienced extreme colour fading or have continually struggled with your new style, make it known. Sometimes Hairstylists have neglected to open your eyes to new professional products that are needed to re-create the look at home.

4. Have you noticed any recent changes to your hair? Hormonal changes, medications and even sunny vacations can impact your hair. With age I have experienced guests that have actually had straight hair turn curly and vice versa. Be open and honest with your Hairstylist, they can provide a wealth of knowledge in order to care for these changes.

5. Are you thinking about a future change? Start talking openly about your desire to change your look in the future. This will give your Hairstylist time to assimilate something that will look amazing on you. Colour often requires additional time to change, so your professional would also appreciate a heads up in order to compensate booking times.

Ultimately your beauty experience is yours for the taking, do not be afraid to speak your mind and offer feedback on your level of satisfaction. Hairstylists can be considered friends, which makes it difficult to extend critique. Please remember, that they are trained professionals who are rewarded with your level of satisfaction. Of course, the largest compliment that you can pay your beauty professional is the recommendation of your closest friends and family.

The first 5-minutes of conversation with your Hairstylist will always remain key to creating a successful look for you to replicate at home. Push past your comfort zone and analyze what your biggest and most amazing dreams are for your image. Challenge your beauty professional to transform those dreams into a reality that works for your hair, lifestyle and most importantly- YOU!