Nov 3, 2013 / 5:00 am
Sometimes, there is nothing like saying you are done with something (or someone). Sometimes, it feels good to quit. There are times when the only way to feel better is to indulge in something decadent. And sometimes, the only way to get your good vibes back is to do something you probably should not.
I don’t recommend robbing a bank, murdering your boss, or shipping a ‘problem’ child off to Antarctica so they’ll really have something to cry about! Going to jail is a whole other level of wicked. There does comes a time, however, when nothing else will do but a big box of chocolate truffles, paired with a large glass (or three) of your favourite red wine to wash it all down. There comes that cold, dismal, snowy day when nothing will heal your soul more completely than bundling under a pile of blankets with an all-day marathon of Breaking Bad, joyfully scarfing every kind of comfort food you can get your sticky hands on.
There comes a day when the best thing you can do to achieve peace of mind is throw away that goal you’ve been unsuccessfully striving for the last five to ten years, and just serenely accept it’s not going to happen. There comes a day when you confidently look your spouse or best friend in the eye and tell them the truth instead of giving a sugar-coated version that doesn’t really help them anyway. “No, I don’t want to try skydiving with you” or “No, those jeans do not flatter your butt”. Find your wickedly authentic voice.
Doing what other people consider bad, pointless, or just plain wrong may be the only action that will bring you closer to a better sense of who you are and what you truly need. Alternatively, instead of settling for ‘reality’, maybe you need to give yourself a virtual smack upside the head, get your act together, and go after your dreams, no matter how unbelievably difficult the road ahead may seem. Time to feel those fears and do it anyway! Or instead of keeping silent when an annoying co-worker spews sexist comments, maybe it’s time to tell them their words are completely inappropriate and they need to stop.
Maybe a month off from the killer term paper, killer work project, killer marathon training program, will save your life – because maybe it’s actually killing your mental stamina, or your joints. Why not sit and watch the world go by for a change? Something amazing might happen – you might actually feel good doing nothing! Why not sit in the bathtub when no one is home and sob your unwept tears until they stop? You might feel a holy release from the tension that’s been plaguing your body for decades. Perhaps it’s time to tell someone to take a hike and too bad if they don’t like it – if your sanity depends on it. Or maybe it’s time for that Harley ride your father told you never to take, just for fun!
No one is going to agree with your choices, all of the time. No one’s opinion matters as much as your own of your Self. Life is not a dress rehearsal. Life is not full of perfection, and it’s not meant for living someone else’s dreams. Life is what you decide it will be, every day. When you let go of caring what everyone else is thinking about you, and useless guilt about enjoying yourself, you can move mountains and swim oceans. Speaking from experience, I have been a quitter, dumped someone over the phone, had three desserts, went for a long Harley ride just for fun (and survived), and I have called someone on their lies, to their face. It all felt great!
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