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Stop attracting irrational women

Recently I was asked this question, ‘How do I stop attracting irrational women?’

I’m not sure I’m the one to ask – LOL. Actually, I’ve never been accused of being irrational but my ex did tell me he thought I was going through a mid-life crisis when I was in my 20′s. (Hmm, maybe that was a nice way of telling me I was irrational). Truth was that I was just figuring out that he wasn’t so good for me and he thought that was the mid-life crisis. Whatever. It likely was the most rational thing I’ve ever thought, but I digress…

There a bunch of things that pop to mind for me with this particular question. First, it could come down to different communication and relationship styles. Each of us comes at communication, relationship and dating with a whole set of beliefs, ideals, rules and fantasies about what it ‘should’ look like. We’re heavily influenced by our families, our friends and our cultural beliefs. Unfortunately, many are also heavily influenced by what they see on TV or in the movies. No one which way is right or wrong but many of us have a tendency to think our way is the right way. I certainly did!

This is a starting point. No doubt, in our diverse and changing world this does become more confusing.

The second thing that comes to mind is paying attention to the type of people you continually attract and in this case it’s irrational women. Whether or not it’s irrational women or continually attracting the wrong type of person, the thing you need to look at is that you are the common denominator. Ouch.

If you keep attracting the same type of person over and over there’s something in your energy and actions that keep attracting the same type. It could be something as simple as having a past tendency to date women who just got out of a mental institution – okay, I am just being funny – but truly I’ve seen people go to the same places, pick up the same type of people and have the same experience over and over and then wonder why. You may want to rethink that strategy.

Could you be replaying your parents relationship? God knows I did that the first time. It’s funny that the thing you most want to stay away from is the thing you actually end up attracting to you.

Are you trying to subconsciously trying to get from a new person the validation and love you never received from someone like an irrational parent? An abusive caregiver? An immature first love?

Who would do that?! Of course this is nothing we would ever consciously choose but that’s why it’s subconscious and it’s driving your actions without you even knowing it. Blech.

Now, you might have even become aware that you were doing this and actively tried to change it BUT trying to change it by resisting it actually doesn’t work! I was talking to someone recently who has a problem with mechanics, they were aware that they wanted to attract a different mechanic and so met with and interviewed a number of different mechanics and settled on one.

What happened? The same thing as before. Why? Because she still didn’t trust mechanics and therefore attracted the same type of situation. Now it’s not to say that the mechanic wasn’t a good mechanic but they would be responding to this woman’s energy about mechanics and her self-fulfilling prophecy that mechanics couldn’t be trusted was fulfilled.

Here’s the good news! You can change this – you just need to change the original energy that you have wrapped up in you. I recommend EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the Sedona Method or Access Consciousness clearings. I actually did a clearing on this question about attracting the wrong person during my first live Q&A for the Attract More Now Essentials members – there’s a free trial period – so you may want to go and check that out! It really did clear a lot of energy out! And, if that clearing didn’t clear it for you, you can come on the next Q&A and ask me to clear it out specifically for you! Cool, huh?!

This is a start, there are a number of other actions I would recommend but that’s for another blog or another Q&A session!

The Smarter, Faster Formula will also help you to know if you’re inviting possibility or inviting limitation – check out the free webinar – you’ll get other specific actions there that you’ll be able to use to shift your attraction in this area.

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About the Author

Mindset & Attraction Expert, Karen Luniw is the creator of the very popular iTunes podcast “The Law of Attraction Tips”. This podcast has been downloaded over 13 million times by people all over the world.

Karen Luniw is the author of her new book “Attraction in Action: Your How to Guide to Relationships, Money, Work and Health” and creator of her newly launched Attract More Now Essentials audio library program where members can access Karen weekly through her Live Q&A's.  Karen is a contributor to The Huffington Post and has been featured in the Vancouver Sun, on Global TV BC, CHBC TV, CHEK-TV and CKNW. People with personal and business mindset challenges come to Karen to attract more from life and business, using tools and techniques that help them to break through to their next level of success.

Smart, driven individuals with personal and business mindset challenges from all over the world come to her to attract more from life and business.  Her clients range from Business Owners & Managers to Hollywood Creatives to Doctors, Lawyers and a multitude of other professionals including staff at the Executive Office of the President of the United States.

Karen teaches how to use a new mindset and other powerful tools to achieve goals smarter and faster through her speaking events, coaching and products.

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