Oct 2, 2013 / 5:00 am
I learned of some information recently about my childhood, and my father, specifically. The news was not good or positive and I am not sure what to do with this information or how to proceed with my relationship with my father. Is continuing a relationship with him in my best interest at this time in light of the truth that I now know? Thank you for your help, S.L.
It is very difficult for us to learn the truth, especially when that truth is painful and negative in nature. And yet, ultimately it is only the truth that sets us free to make informed decisions and choices and move forward accordingly.
I am being guided to tell you that this issue does need to be resolved, by way of open and heartfelt communication on your part; not only for your sake but also for the sake of your children and grandchildren. In this case it is not so much as what you say to your dad but rather, how you say it. Tell your truth, lovingly and without condemnation and blame.
I believe this approach will help your father to see what he needs to do to heal the situation; a choice he will inevitably make.
In the meantime, you are being guided to allow yourself to enjoy life, even in little ways, and spend some quiet time alone, taking a walk or meditating; depending on your personal preference. The larger message here is focus on you, on all that you are and on all that is good in your life. This will boost your confidence in light of the painful truth around your dad.
You have a very bright future ahead of you in all other areas of your life. By allowing yourself to enjoy what is working and giving yourself permission to feel great about what you have accomplished and how far you have come, even without the love and support and your dad, will give you the self-confidence to continue moving forward, to think in bigger, more vast ways to fulfil your dreams and to find the right words to express your feelings to your dad so that you can let the past go, for once and for all.
I feel as though you have allowed your relationship with your dad to minimize what you have dreamed of accomplishing for yourself. This is your opportunity to look at why you chose to believe this way and create a new, more life affirming belief where the sky is the limit and you do not have to settle for less in any area of your life. Again, self-confidence is crucial to this happening for you. The wonderful news is that it only takes 30 days to re-program any belief that is not working for us with a new belief that will change our life for the better.
Every day is a new day ….let today be a day of self-confidence, healing and letting go of the past.
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