Dear Dawn...

The Christmas season is approaching and I have been out of touch with my family for some time now. I am not sure if I should reach out to them or not; a part of me wants to but it has been such a long time that I fear they won’t want to see me. Can you please advise me on what to do? Thank you, G.K.

Dear G.K.,

My feeling is that your family will welcome you with open arms if you made the attempt to reach out to them.

Your family misses you very much but have tried to be respectful of your decision to stay away even though they are not sure why.

I am also being guided to tell you that there were many things happening at home the last time you saw them that you were not aware of and that would explain a lot of the attitudes and behaviours that compelled you to want to stay away in the first place.

With some heart to heart communication with your mom I believe you will gain a better understanding of the real dynamics and events that were taking place back then. This will allow both you and your family to re-unite with much love and compassion and forgiveness. Your dad really misses you too and would be so happy to see you again.

The important thing for you to unblock, if you will, is your fears around going home for the holidays. They feel very real to you and yet they are, for the most part, an illusion that are keeping you separate from what your heart truly desires with regards to your family and your experience of the Christmas holidays this year, and for years to come.

I am also feeling that they want you to reach out to them for help with your current financial situation; they really do want to help you and they want you to know that you do not have go through all of your challenges alone. It is hard when we feel so proud to ask for help but this is essential to your growth as a soul and they want nothing more than to be there for you. The greatest gift you can give them this Christmas is to have you home again and to be willing to receive their help, their love and their support.

Every day is a new day ….Just for today let go of your fears (False Evidence Appearing Real) and reach out to your family. Your holidays will be blessed with the true spirit of Christmas when you do and your life will change radically for the better. You do have the strength and courage to do this. I wish you and your family lots of love and joy and peace this Christmas and in 2014.

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