I have been in a relationship for a couple of years now and am not sure if this is really the one. Are we soul mates or is this just temporary? I do love this person but have some doubts that it is a forever union leading to marriage. Can you please advise me on what this relationship is about or if I should stay or leave? Thank you, F.M.
I feel that your confusion stems, in large part, from lingering feelings that you have towards an ex-boyfriend. By releasing all of your emotional ties to this ex you will be able to open your heart more to the gifts of your current relationship.
There are many ways to release these ties and the one I would suggest for you is simply through the power of intention. Set a crystal clear intention of being free of any old attachments as well as the intention to open your heart and live more fully in the present. This is a very powerful and effective way to transform your doubts into clarity of mind and heart.
I am also feeling that you have been experiencing what is commonly referred to as “red flags” throughout this relationship. These flags are meant, in your case, to serve as areas of your relationship that need healing. They are not deal breakers as many red flags can be, but rather, opportunities to heal and grow together and bond more deeply over the next year.
Ultimately, I see that your union is blessed with the kindness and genuine caring of your partner. With the opening of your heart and allowing this love to be received you will be at peace with your partner and be able embrace the healing between the two of you as well as individually with grace and serenity.
A wonderful affirmation for you to say out loud every day, or even write it down is, “It is safe for me love and be loved.” Our real power, in life and in relationships, stems from our capacity to love; to love ourselves, deeply and unconditionally and then to extend that love to our life and even the world.
The gift you will receive from this is all areas of your life will transform, heal and grow exponentially for the better in the New Year. We often start the year by setting resolutions for ourselves. What I have found is most effective is to set intentions instead.
Every day is new day… Just for today, and for the New Year approaching, set the intention to say “yes” to love and healing and growing through joy, abundance and peace in all areas of your life. Your relationship and your life will be incredibly rewarding from doing this. I wish you and your family the best during this New Year and that 2014 marks the turning point where life becomes full of magic and miracles, through the power of intention and love.
While I am not happy in my job it is bringing in good money for me. It pays my bills and helps to fund my home based business expenses.
I would be creating problems at work if I left because it is a skilled position that would require a lot of time to re-train another person to fill my spot.
Is there a way that I can quit my job without causing them problems in finding someone new and without creating financial problems for myself until my home business is profitable?
Thank you for your guidance, O.S.
The guidance I am getting for you is to not let go of your job at this time; when your business is more profitable you can pull back to a part-time position with your firm and then eventually leave altogether.
Spring will be the time to pull back to a part-time position at which time they can hire someone to be trained and fill your shoes without the extra burden on your shoulders of leaving them and yourself, high and dry, so to speak. By this time next year you will be doing your business on a full-time basis.
Six months may feel like a lifetime for you right now but if you can focus on the pride you have for the great job you are doing it will help you to get through this time with a greater sense of joy and peace.
Your home business will be successful and will offer you the resources and time to enjoy your life more fully. I sense that this is very important to you and your partners.
Is there something about your home business that you can be learning right now? I am feeling that some additional education in your area of business will serve you and your partners to succeed more quickly. It is in the area of marketing and will require some research on your part as to the best course to take. This is actually something that you and your partners can do over the next few months.
If you were to quit your job now the stress would have an adverse affect on you and your business if only because it will create unnecessary worry about money, your bills and funding your business.
You can handle both right now and you will be glad in the end that you did; it will create a win-win for the company you work for, for you and for your business.
Every day is new day ….Just for today take pride in the fact that your work is of excellent quality and you are appreciated where you are. Have peace in the knowledge that it will not be this way for much longer and the financial success and freedom you desire with your business is completely within reach. I wish you the best and send you much love and light on your path to success and living the life of your dreams.
My question is about my love life and my life in general. I'm so lost right now. If you could provide me with some direction and guidance I would be very grateful.
In looking at your love life the main theme and guidance I am receiving for you is to review your past relationships in order to determine what was good with them and what you would like to be different in the future.
The universe has infinite potential to help you attract your ideal partner when you are clear on the qualities you seek as well as having the ability to completely close the doors on your past.
I do see someone new coming into your life as early as this summer. Clarity on what you consider to be the most important qualities for your ideal partner will ultimately help you attract exactly that.
I am also being guided to ask you to consider what those qualities are and then ask yourself if you express the same qualities yourself. This will pave the way for a healthy and synergistic union.
The effort you put into this now and over the spring season will assure your success in love this summer.
Regarding your life in general I have been guided to look into what your life purpose is at this time. Our purpose in life evolves as we grow and learn so I am looking at this from the point of view as a good place for you to put your focus and attention on for now and then allow the your life to unfold and guide you to your full potential over the years.
Your life up until now has a test in strength and courage. These are high soul qualities that will assist you in re-directing your life right now and focusing on the love you have for friends and family and how, through that love, you have the ability to teach others the value in doing the same for themselves.
It is being suggested that you go to a book store to the Self-help and Spiritual Studies sections. You will come across two books that will inspire to you start teaching through intimate classes from your home.
This has a lot to do with helping other’s create their heart’s desires by learning to do so yourself. A great book I can recommend is “Creating Your Heart’s Desires” by Sonia Choquette. Another book coming to me is “The Prosperous Heart” by Julia Cameron. You can read, learn and teach both of them from your home.
A final message coming through is for you to trust that the Universe is fully supporting you, in every way, as you do this. Life is not a destination. It is a journey. Enjoy the journey and embrace your gifts of leadership. These gifts will evolve over time.
Every day is new day…. Just for today start with small steps, enjoy the process and TRUST the process.
My partner and I have been together almost two years, and were friends for quite a few years prior to becoming romantically involved. I am feeling uncertain about the future with him, as he often seems insecure and wonders if I "cheat" on him or have male friends over when he is out of town. My reassurances soothe him, until he travels again. The distrust is wearing on me. My previous relationship was an emotionally abusive one, which ended among similar insecurities. I did not see the insecure side of my partner even with his previous sweetheart. Do I have more lessons to learn? Where do you see this relationship going?
Dear Faithfully Frustrated,
The main message coming through for you actually has to do with your previous relationship.
Your partner is reflecting back to you unresolved emotions and beliefs regarding the abuse you suffered in your previous relationship. It is almost as though he is wearing a mask of insecurity that is actually not his however and neither of you can do anything positive about it without the awareness of where it is actually coming from.
It would be very helpful for you to take some time and work on forgiving your ex, as well as forgiving yourself, for allowing the abuse.
There is a program, in the form of a book or CD, whichever works best for you called Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping. It will help you to understand the nature of why we attract certain people and circumstances in order to grow as souls. You will also learn the gift in your experience on a soul level through doing the worksheet provided.
I have used this many times in my own life and know from experience that it works and does indeed create miracles. It may take you doing the worksheet daily until you feel an internal shift and release that will assist you in completely letting go of your past relationship.
This quote may also help you: “We forgive out of self-interest. I forgive you because I want out of my pain. I forgive you so that I can be free of what you did. I see beyond your mistake to the love in you so that I can see beyond the mistake to the love in me – because only then can I have a miracle.” - Marianne Williamson
After you have done the work of forgiveness I do see a bright future with your current partner. As you release the past and forgive yourself you will create an opening for marriage with this partner, if that is what you truly desire. This is in the cards for you both, so to speak …if you so choose.
Every day is a new day… Just for today do all that you can to learn the soul gifts of your previous relationship and forgive your previous partner as well as yourself. The insecurities you are experiencing now will miraculously cease to exist when you do.
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