May 22, 2013 / 5:00 am
I am having trouble finding who I am. I have been going from job to job and not enjoying them. Everyone keeps telling me to just get a job there and stop 'job hunting'. I am only 25, how do I explain to others and reconcile with myself that I just need to know where I fit? Your advice and guidance would be very helpful and appreciated. Thank you. - N.M.
You are being asked to make space for the clarity you need to move forward.
There are many ways to do this starting with your home environment and then looking at previous dreams and goals and hobbies that no longer serve you.
I am being guided to tell you that you have many conflicting desires and nothing is going to make sense until you clear out the clutter of what no longer serves you. When you create the space for all things new they will show up; right now there is no space.
You are very young and still learning about what you really want and this is very normal; the pressures of today's society state that most young adults do not get a clear picture on their lives until they are 30 or so.
In the meantime stay true to your intuition on this and show them you still do care by making room for your ideal life; what that looks like is up to you and you really only need your approval for this and then just hope for support in your dreams and goals as they become more clear.
It is important for you also to let go of the past and all that did not work out as you planned; in doing so you will be less likely to miss new opportunities. In letting go of the past you will be be able to see the positive in your situation and move forward more quickly than your age would indicate; based on averages.
There is indication that in doing this that events are going to happen very quickly and will require your full attention and focus.
Ultimately, you are coming to the end of your difficult situation. Take responsibility for yourself and appreciate the advice as well meaning. And ultimately heed your your own voice.
A trip is also indicated to help you gain a new perspective on your life and you future. It will be a short trip and driving distance but will make all the difference to your current perspective being elevated to that of a higher, more empowering one; one that will lead you into a great future with purpose and drive.
“In the garden every flower
Has its purpose and its hour-
The tulip and delphinium,
To only name a minimum.” “Avalon,” - Julia Cameron
Every day is new day....let go of what no longer serves you and make room for all that is beautiful and meaningful to manifest. I wish you the best and know you will thrive.
May 15, 2013 / 5:00 am
Lately at work I feel as if my boss is taking advantage of me and not giving me the credit I deserve. How do I approach him and resolve this situation without the fear of possibly being reprimanded; or worse, lose my job? Thank you for your guidance with this. I work very hard and it would be helpful to me in keeping a positive attitude if I were shown appreciation for all that I do for my company. - A.P.
I am being guided to remind you, first and foremost, that there are contracts that prevent you from losing your job should you speak your mind.
It is very important to your own personal growth that you do speak your mind and with confidence. It is helpful however, before you do this to find a balance between what you are thinking and how you are feeling. It is, in many cases, not what we say or ask, but rather how we do it.
If you can approach your boss with the confidence in your abilities and contributions and speak your mind “lovingly” you will at the very least have stood up for yourself with your integrity intact. We cannot always predict how someone will respond to us when we do this but please know that any response has nothing to do with you. It is primarily a reflection of the person, in this case your boss, and how they feel about themselves. All too often we take things personally. A great lesson in peace and freedom is to take NOTHING personally.
I am also being guided to tell you that your hard work has not gone unnoticed; we live in a benevolent universe that really does “have our back” and in time if your boss cannot appreciate you, other opportunities will present themselves. If this is the case it is because you are to accept the one that will bring you the most joy and love for what you do. Right now you have the Midas Touch and your hard work is not being ignored in any way, shape or form.
I would like to share a quote with you that felt very poignant to your situation:
“It is man's foremost duty to awaken the understanding of the inner Self and to know his own real inner greatness. Once he knows his own true worth, he can know the worth of others. Therefore, meditate on your Self, honor and worship your own Self, kneel to your own Self, and see the Lord who is hidden in your own heart.” - Swami Muktananda
Every day is new day.... honor your innate greatness and if your boss cannot do the same trust that it is because he does not honor his. And open yourself to other opportunities that truly do reflect your talents, achievements and hard work. I wish you the very best with this and know you will find the courage to lovingly speak your truth.
May 8, 2013 / 5:00 am
I recently changed positions in my company; going back to my old position because I did not fit in the new one. My concern is whether I have negatively affected my future career advancement in the process. Can you guide me on this? Your advice is appreciated, J.M.
Your intuition that guided you back to your position did not let you down; you did the right thing. It is not uncommon to take a step back before you can take another two steps forward and it took much courage on your part to at least try something new and have the strength to admit it was not working for you.
By going back to a position that you enjoy and where you are respected and appreciated will serve you in re-creating the mind-set to open yourself to other possibilities and new ideas as to how to grow in your career and financially. I also feel that you are learning what you do want for yourself by experiencing what you don't want. That may sound counter-intuitive but it is often a path in which we take to grow as souls.
Ultimately, I am getting that you have planted some solid seeds in the last five years and you are about to see the 'harvest' of that very soon. What you are seeking is seeking you. Your key to attracting what you desire is to have the confidence in yourself to take a leap forward again and also to BELIEVE you deserve it. You can want something with every inch of your being but if you don't have the belief that you will get it, you won't.
There is an opportunity out there for you right now and you are being asked to let go of worry, doubt and concerns so that your intuition can guide you to it. It is something that you will love to do, are more than qualified for and will also pay you what you deserve. Rather than try to figure this one out you are being asked to let your heart guide you and at the same time make the decision that this your time to have it all. There is a quote that you may find helpful in doing this:
“The infinite richness of the Father is mine to enjoy. The vital good health, the wisdom, the peace, and all good things which proceed from the Father I now claim. The act of accepting them is my right and privilege and I exercise it intelligently and in full faith. Life now sings through me in radiant ecstasy.” - Ernest Holmes
Every day is a new day ….today is a new day towards your bright future ahead. I wish you all the best in your career and in attracting this wonderful new opportunity into your life. As humans we often think we are asking for too much when the truth is, we are asking for too little. Ask for more... you deserve it.
May 1, 2013 / 5:00 am
I recently found out that my partner is cheating on me. I am not sure what to do. I am not sure that I want to leave but I don't know how to forgive and if I can ever trust him again. Can you please advise me on what to do? Thank you, J.M.
I am sorry that you are going through this; this is clearly a very distressing and hurtful time for you.
Whether you decide to stay with your partner or not, for 'your sake', forgiveness is essential for you to move on. When we do not forgive we essentially hold ourselves hostage to the poison of resentment. Guilt and resentment are the two leading emotional causes of disease, especially cancer.
In all relationships both parties contribute to its success and stability; even if it is one partner behaving in ways that could end it altogether. If you can look at what the dynamics were that existed between you and might have contributed to such behavior it would be easier to identify with your role in it. Then the process of forgiveness has to be one of self-forgiveness first and forgiveness of your partner second. This does not mean that you have to condone the behavior or accept it in any way shape or form.
I am feeling that in your case, there were no clear boundaries or 'deal breakers' to keep your relationship intact. Every healthy relationship needs to have these clearly defined from the onset and then both parties have to have the courage to stay within those boundaries or leave if the deal has broken, so to speak.
While most couples would agree that monogamy is a 'deal breaker' that should not have to be mentioned, it is the unfortunate reality that this is the one deal that absolutely does need clear definition and solid boundaries, more so than any other.
Clear communication that is non-violent in nature is essential to your decision to stay or to leave at this time. This means speaking your truth and doing so in a way that does not hurt your partner in the process. I call this type of communication the “loving mind and wise heart” form of communicating.
For you it will likely be necessary to process your anger first. Healthy ways to do this can include screaming into pillows (I do this one myself if I have to), writing everything you feel on paper and then burning it in a safe place or even just physically punching a pillow/mattress or something similar and venting your emotions simultaneously (if your environment is conducive to doing this).
I do believe that in time you will be able to work this out and stay together. I also feel that your love for your partner is bigger than your pain and I know you have the courage to forgive.
Every day is new day …..allowing yourself to forgive will serve to deepen your connection in time.
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